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I'm nervous.

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I'm going to take it
one step at a time.

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I'm going to take it
one step at a time.

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I'm absolutely petrified.

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I'm absolutely petrified.

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12 virgins are travelling to
a unique island retreat...

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12 virgins are travelling to
a unique island retreat...

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..that could change
their lives forever.

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..that could change
their lives forever.

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This is maybe the
strangest day of my life.

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Being a virgin at the age of 22
feels very lonely.

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Being a virgin at the age of 22
feels very lonely.

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I've just sort of given up all hope.

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In a world saturated with sex,

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In a world saturated with sex,

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more young adults than ever
are caught in an intimacy epidemic.

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more young adults than ever
are caught in an intimacy epidemic.

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more young adults than ever
are caught in an intimacy epidemic.

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The thought of having sex
with someone...

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Scares me.

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I don't feel confident.

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I'm missing out.
Terrified of the thought of it.

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I'm missing out.
Terrified of the thought of it.

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Nerve-racking. Gut-wrenching.

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Embarrassing.

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I'm going to get wrong.

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All I think about is what
I'm going to get wrong.

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Can you point to the outer labia?

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Nope.

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Now...Oh, my God!

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Now...Oh, my God!

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..they're getting a crash course
in intimacy.

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..they're getting a crash course
in intimacy.

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Social media, porn, dating apps.

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Social media, porn, dating apps.

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There are so many negative messages
and we can help them blossom.

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There are so many negative messages
and we can help them blossom.

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Use it by stimulating the area.

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Guided by a team of experts...

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Guided by a team of experts...

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You see yourself as... Repulsive.

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You see yourself as... Repulsive.

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..they'll confront
their insecurities...

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..they'll confront
their insecurities...

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I'm hiding how upset
I actually feel.

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I actually feel.

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..exploring intimacy...

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..in every form...

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Yes, yes.

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Good.

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..and maybe...

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Do you want to put a condom on?

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..have sex with
a trained therapist...

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..have sex with
a trained therapist...

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Desperate times call for
desperate measures.

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THEY CHEER

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..or even one another.

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Why are you nervous around me?

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I don't know.

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That's so good.

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I really do need to change my life.

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I really do need to change my life.

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The question is...

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Get a room, guys!

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..who will finally be ready...

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..who will finally be ready...

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..to go all the way...

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Mm-hm.

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..on Virgin Island?

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{\an8}In the first phase of the course...

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{\an8}Shame really interrupts pleasure.

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{\an8}Shame really interrupts pleasure.

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..the group confronted their shame.

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..the group confronted their shame.

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Have I got a lipstick stain?
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Have I got a lipstick stain?
No, you haven't. Excellent.

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Bertie made small steps forward...

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What do you think? Let's go!

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What do you think? Let's go!

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..but witnessing intimacy

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..but witnessing intimacy

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stirred up Joy's feelings
of religious shame...

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stirred up Joy's feelings
of religious shame...

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I literally thought that God
cursed me with vaginismus

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I literally thought that God
cursed me with vaginismus

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to stop me from having sex.

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..and Alex revealed the
extent of his anxiety.

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..and Alex revealed the
extent of his anxiety.

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Penny for your thoughts?

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The main overriding thing
is still that worry

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The main overriding thing
is still that worry

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of not getting an erection.

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The phase ended...

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For me, shame is feeling ugly.

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Sorry.

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..with the group
letting their shame...

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ALL CHANTING:Let it go, let it go!

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ALL CHANTING:Let it go, let it go!

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..go up in flames.

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CHEERING

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CHEERING

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Now, things are set to escalate...

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Imagine that your cock is
going inside my vagina.

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going inside my vagina.

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..with the second phase
of the course...

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Good.

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..turn-ons.

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In society, a lot of people feel
ashamed to talk about sex.

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In society, a lot of people feel
ashamed to talk about sex.

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Take a moment to look at your vulva.

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Take a moment to look at your vulva.

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{\an8}But to have a really
fulfilling sex life,

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{\an8}But to have a really
fulfilling sex life,

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{\an8}you have to know what turns you on.

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Morning!

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It's the morning of day three
on Virgin Island...

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It's the morning of day three
on Virgin Island...

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Oh!

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Here we go, then.

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Here we go, then.

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..and time for the group
to discover what's in store

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..and time for the group
to discover what's in store

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over the next two days.

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over the next two days.

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"The next phase is turn-ons."

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I think turn-ons might involve
a lot of dirty talk.

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I think turn-ons might involve
a lot of dirty talk.

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It is quite a step up from hugging
and stroking people's arms.

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and stroking people's arms.

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Talking about, like, what turns
you on is a private thing,

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Talking about, like, what turns
you on is a private thing,

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but I guess nothing is private
on this island.

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on this island.

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Morning! Good morning.

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I'm feeling nervous
and tense over this.

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I'm feeling nervous
and tense over this.

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I'm feeling nervous
and tense over this.

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a very big challenge.

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It's going to be
a very big challenge.

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Turn-ons, guys.

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Your aim is to find
everyone's turn-ons!

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Your aim is to find
everyone's turn-ons!

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LAUGHTER

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Thing is, I know all my turn-ons,

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but talking about it
feels quite daunting.

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but talking about it
feels quite daunting.

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If one of the guys gets a boner,
like, they're going to be like,

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Very proud.

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I'm very nervous.

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It just all feels like something
I'm not allowed to think about.

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It just all feels like something
I'm not allowed to think about.

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Like, oh, my gosh.

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No, no, no, no, no.

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No.

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Do you know your turn-ons?

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Harry Styles.
LAUGHTER

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Harry Styles.
LAUGHTER

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The group may be sexual beginners...

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The group may be sexual beginners...

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Hi!

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Hi!

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..but Celeste and Danielle want them
to imagine they're experts

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..but Celeste and Danielle want them
to imagine they're experts

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and embrace their turn-ons.

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and embrace their turn-ons.

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People get really confused.
They're like, "What turns me on?

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People get really confused.
They're like, "What turns me on?

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"Is it positions or do I need
to buy a new toy?"

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to buy a new toy?"

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But what really turns us on is the
feeling that we get during sex.

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But what really turns us on is the
feeling that we get during sex.

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But what really turns us on is the
feeling that we get during sex.

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We call this our core desires.

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This is the cornerstone of
the whole course.

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This is the cornerstone of
the whole course.

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Everyone should know
their core desires.

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If you want to have
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find out what you want to feel
during sex and tell your partners.

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find out what you want to feel
during sex and tell your partners.

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For me, in sex, it's all about
feeling very special.

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For me, in sex, it's all about
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For me, in sex, it's all about
feeling very special.

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I want to feel powerful.

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I want to feel powerful.

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I want to feel like
they're lucky to have me.

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I want to feel like
they're lucky to have me.

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feel like I'm the queen.

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And for me, I really like to
feel like I'm the queen.

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And for me, I really like to
feel like I'm the queen.

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People have many different feelings
that they want to have during sex,

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that they want to have during sex,

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and all of them are beautiful.

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We don't shame any of them.

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So you can just lie down, relax.

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So you can just lie down, relax.

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To get them in the mood,

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Danielle begins with a
visualisation exercise.

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Danielle begins with a
visualisation exercise.

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I want you to start thinking about
a fantasy that you might be having.

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I want you to start thinking about
a fantasy that you might be having.

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I want you to start thinking about
a fantasy that you might be having.

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It can be something that
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It can be something that
you saw in a movie

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or some erotics that you read,

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or some erotics that you read,

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and then start noticing -

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and then start noticing -

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what is the feeling that you want
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what is the feeling that you want
to feel in that moment?

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what is the feeling that you want
to feel in that moment?

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You might want to feel
loved or precious.

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You might want to feel
loved or precious.

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masterful, desired.

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Might want to feel
masterful, desired.

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Might want to feel
masterful, desired.

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Whenever you're ready, come back.

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Whenever you're ready, come back.

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Sit at the edge of your mat.

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With their core desires in mind...

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Thank you.

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..the experts want the group
to write them down on a stone

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..the experts want the group
to write them down on a stone

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and share with each other.

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Could just play noughts and crosses.

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LAUGHTER

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OK, so who feels like they are
ready to come up?

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OK, so who feels like they are
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I'm going to go. Great. Wonderful.

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I'm going to go. Great. Wonderful.

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For Joy, her desires have
always been complicated.

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For Joy, her desires have
always been complicated.

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When I was in year seven and eight,

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I thought it wasn't OK to be gay.

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One...

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I spoke to a church pastor

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I spoke to a church pastor

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and he started going on a rant

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about gay people being really sexual
and slutty and promiscuous.

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about gay people being really sexual
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And I realised myself
that I was bisexual.

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And I realised myself
that I was bisexual.

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But sex with a woman is like
an undiscovered landscape.

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But sex with a woman is like
an undiscovered landscape.

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an undiscovered landscape.

258
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I do feel a bit guilty for
wanting to explore it.

259
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I do feel a bit guilty for
wanting to explore it.

260
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So I put cherished.

261
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So I put cherished.

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One...

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264
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Revered, lost in the moment, free

265
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and ultimately ravished.

266
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and ultimately ravished.

267
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Yay! That's my girl.

268
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Yay! That's my girl.

269
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APPLAUSE

270
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APPLAUSE

271
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As others step up...

272
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I'll do it.

273
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..some themes emerge.

274
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thing is to feel wanted.

275
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For me, I think the most important
thing is to feel wanted.

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Feeling wanted...

277
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I put wanted.

278
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I've mainly put wanted.

279
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..and appreciated are
common desires...

280
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..and appreciated are
common desires...

281
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I want to feel loved.

282
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283
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I've only got pampered on mine.

284
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Special.

285
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Praised, and then it would feel
nice to have a safe space.

286
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Praised, and then it would feel
nice to have a safe space.

287
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..while some want to be dominated.

288
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..while some want to be dominated.

289
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290
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Dominated.

291
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I feel like a little bit of a perv
telling you this, but, yeah.

292
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I feel like a little bit of a perv
telling you this, but, yeah.

293
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Oh, we love pervs. We love pervs.

294
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LAUGHTER

295
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So far, only 24-year-old Bertie
hasn't stepped up.

296
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So far, only 24-year-old Bertie
hasn't stepped up.

297
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I do a lot of volunteering work
in charity fundraising events.

298
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I do a lot of volunteering work
in charity fundraising events.

299
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I do a lot of volunteering work
in charity fundraising events.

300
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I'm the one to try and get
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301
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I'm the one to try and get
a lot of rich people

302
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to give money for charity.

303
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You'll be disappointed in it,
but, is...

304
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But when it comes to discussing,

305
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But when it comes to discussing,

306
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you know, sexual things,

307
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<font color="
as a confident player.

308
00:08:52,960 --> 00:08:54,440
I don't see myself
as a confident player.

309
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I think turn-ons,

310
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I think turn-ons,

311
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especially from the
more sexual aspect,

312
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especially from the
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313
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should not be shared
in front of everybody.

314
00:09:03,360 --> 00:09:04,000
should not be shared
in front of everybody.

315
00:09:04,040 --> 00:09:06,040
It should be kept as a secret
between you and your partner,

316
00:09:06,080 --> 00:09:07,600
It should be kept as a secret
between you and your partner,

317
00:09:07,640 --> 00:09:09,680
<font color="

318
00:09:09,720 --> 00:09:11,720
"I have turn-ons, but I'm not
sharing them in front of everyone.

319
00:09:11,760 --> 00:09:13,240
"I have turn-ons, but I'm not
sharing them in front of everyone.

320
00:09:13,280 --> 00:09:15,280
"It should only be a secret
between you and your partner."

321
00:09:15,320 --> 00:09:15,880
"It should only be a secret
<font color="

322
00:09:15,920 --> 00:09:17,480
That's about it, really.

323
00:09:17,520 --> 00:09:19,520
APPLAUSE

324
00:09:19,560 --> 00:09:21,560
APPLAUSE

325
00:09:21,600 --> 00:09:21,920
APPLAUSE

326
00:09:31,240 --> 00:09:32,520
How are we all feeling?

327
00:09:32,560 --> 00:09:34,160
I really liked it. Yeah.

328
00:09:34,200 --> 00:09:36,200
I was just like, "Oh, wow,
this feels a bit different."

329
00:09:36,240 --> 00:09:37,520
I was just like, "Oh, wow,
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330
00:09:37,560 --> 00:09:39,560
Felt something in my nipples
as well, you know what I mean?

331
00:09:39,600 --> 00:09:39,920
Felt something in my nipples
as well, you know what I mean?

332
00:09:39,960 --> 00:09:41,960
Oh, yeah?
Yeah. Like, it felt a bit...

333
00:09:42,000 --> 00:09:42,200
Oh, yeah?
Yeah. Like, it felt a bit...

334
00:09:44,600 --> 00:09:46,600
The turn-ons exercise
may have worked for some...

335
00:09:46,640 --> 00:09:47,280
The turn-ons exercise
may have worked for some...

336
00:09:47,320 --> 00:09:49,320
When I go home, if I'm ever
in a relationship with someone,

337
00:09:49,360 --> 00:09:49,640
When I go home, if I'm ever
in a relationship with someone,

338
00:09:49,680 --> 00:09:51,680
I'm just going to put it
by their bedside table.

339
00:09:51,720 --> 00:09:51,960
<font color="
by their bedside table.

340
00:09:52,000 --> 00:09:53,040
Turn-ons!

341
00:09:56,320 --> 00:09:58,320
..but Bertie is just not feeling it.

342
00:09:58,360 --> 00:09:58,760
..but Bertie is just not feeling it.

343
00:09:58,800 --> 00:10:00,800
I was the only person
in the group to not do it.

344
00:10:00,840 --> 00:10:01,240
I was the only person
in the group to not do it.

345
00:10:01,280 --> 00:10:03,280
<font color="
in front of everybody, you know?

346
00:10:03,320 --> 00:10:04,440
I didn't want to, like, say things
in front of everybody, you know?

347
00:10:04,480 --> 00:10:06,480
I do kind of feel like
I've been, like,

348
00:10:06,520 --> 00:10:07,120
I do kind of feel like
I've been, like,

349
00:10:07,160 --> 00:10:09,040
<font color="
Mm-hm.

350
00:10:09,080 --> 00:10:11,080
I feel like I've just taken
a bit of a setback after that.

351
00:10:11,120 --> 00:10:11,320
I feel like I've just taken
a bit of a setback after that.

352
00:10:12,600 --> 00:10:14,600
It certainly wasn't the most
enjoyable workshop, put it that way.

353
00:10:14,640 --> 00:10:15,960
<font color="
enjoyable workshop, put it that way.

354
00:10:16,000 --> 00:10:18,000
I felt a bit of uncomfortableness,

355
00:10:18,040 --> 00:10:19,440
I felt a bit of uncomfortableness,

356
00:10:19,480 --> 00:10:21,480
like, everywhere, really.

357
00:10:21,520 --> 00:10:22,560
like, everywhere, really.

358
00:10:25,280 --> 00:10:27,280
To help the group
discover their turn-ons...

359
00:10:27,320 --> 00:10:27,720
To help the group
discover their turn-ons...

360
00:10:27,760 --> 00:10:29,760
<font color="
today, mate?

361
00:10:29,800 --> 00:10:30,040
Who's got the one-to-ones
today, mate?

362
00:10:30,080 --> 00:10:32,040
..they'll all have one-on-ones...

363
00:10:32,080 --> 00:10:33,120
You've got Ilil.

364
00:10:33,160 --> 00:10:35,160
Ilil? OK. Which one's Ilil?

365
00:10:35,200 --> 00:10:35,400
Ilil? OK. Which one's Ilil?

366
00:10:35,440 --> 00:10:37,080
She's a sexological body worker.

367
00:10:37,120 --> 00:10:38,360
<font color="

368
00:10:38,400 --> 00:10:40,400
Ah, thank you. Now, I know.

369
00:10:40,440 --> 00:10:40,640
Ah, thank you. Now, I know.

370
00:10:40,680 --> 00:10:42,320
..starting with Alex,

371
00:10:42,360 --> 00:10:44,360
who has struggled to get turned on
under the pressure of intimacy.

372
00:10:44,400 --> 00:10:45,640
who has struggled to get turned on
under the pressure of intimacy.

373
00:10:46,960 --> 00:10:48,960
Sex has been a sense of
anxiety for me.

374
00:10:49,000 --> 00:10:50,240
Sex has been a sense of
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375
00:10:50,280 --> 00:10:52,280
Growing up, my dad was quite
emotionally repressed himself.

376
00:10:52,320 --> 00:10:53,600
Growing up, my dad was quite
emotionally repressed himself.

377
00:10:53,640 --> 00:10:55,640
We had sex education
in school at year five,

378
00:10:55,680 --> 00:10:56,200
We had sex education
in school at year five,

379
00:10:56,240 --> 00:10:58,240
<font color="
about it and he said,

380
00:10:58,280 --> 00:10:58,880
and I talked to my dad
about it and he said,

381
00:10:58,920 --> 00:11:00,480
"Oh, that's rude.
Don't talk about that."

382
00:11:01,880 --> 00:11:03,880
I then became so embarrassed
to talk or think about sex.

383
00:11:03,920 --> 00:11:05,920
I then became so embarrassed
<font color="

384
00:11:05,960 --> 00:11:06,240
I then became so embarrassed
to talk or think about sex.

385
00:11:06,280 --> 00:11:08,280
Whenever sex or relationships
or anything came on TV,

386
00:11:08,320 --> 00:11:09,960
Whenever sex or relationships
or anything came on TV,

387
00:11:10,000 --> 00:11:12,000
I used to leave the room.

388
00:11:12,040 --> 00:11:12,760
<font color="

389
00:11:14,080 --> 00:11:16,080
It's estimated that half
of modern men

390
00:11:16,120 --> 00:11:16,480
It's estimated that half
of modern men

391
00:11:16,520 --> 00:11:18,520
have experienced performance anxiety.

392
00:11:18,560 --> 00:11:19,680
have experienced performance anxiety.

393
00:11:19,720 --> 00:11:21,720
To help Alex, sexological bodyworker
Ilil plans to get physical.

394
00:11:21,760 --> 00:11:23,760
To help Alex, sexological bodyworker
Ilil plans to get physical.

395
00:11:23,800 --> 00:11:24,800
To help Alex, sexological bodyworker
Ilil plans to get physical.

396
00:11:24,840 --> 00:11:26,840
I want to work with him
<font color="

397
00:11:26,880 --> 00:11:28,080
I want to work with him
on receiving touch for me

398
00:11:28,120 --> 00:11:30,120
and recognising when that
performance anxiety kicks in,

399
00:11:30,160 --> 00:11:31,600
and recognising when that
performance anxiety kicks in,

400
00:11:31,640 --> 00:11:33,640
and letting me know what he needs
<font color="

401
00:11:33,680 --> 00:11:35,480
and letting me know what he needs
in order to bring arousal up.

402
00:11:35,520 --> 00:11:37,520
So hopefully the erections will come
when he has a lot of pleasure.

403
00:11:37,560 --> 00:11:39,560
So hopefully the erections will come
when he has a lot of pleasure.

404
00:11:39,600 --> 00:11:40,120
<font color="
when he has a lot of pleasure.

405
00:11:41,560 --> 00:11:42,520
Hello!

406
00:11:44,880 --> 00:11:46,880
So the idea of today
is for us to do

407
00:11:46,920 --> 00:11:47,840
So the idea of today
is for us to do

408
00:11:47,880 --> 00:11:49,880
full-body pleasure mapping. Mm-hm.

409
00:11:49,920 --> 00:11:50,320
<font color="

410
00:11:50,360 --> 00:11:52,360
You're gonna be guiding
the whole thing.

411
00:11:52,400 --> 00:11:52,680
You're gonna be guiding
the whole thing.

412
00:11:52,720 --> 00:11:54,720
Whenever you feel yourself starting
to worry about performance,

413
00:11:54,760 --> 00:11:56,760
Whenever you feel yourself starting
<font color="

414
00:11:56,800 --> 00:11:57,560
Whenever you feel yourself starting
to worry about performance,

415
00:11:57,600 --> 00:11:59,600
you can just say, like,
"Can we slow down?"

416
00:11:59,640 --> 00:12:00,000
you can just say, like,
"Can we slow down?"

417
00:12:02,120 --> 00:12:03,520
So take your clothes off.

418
00:12:05,200 --> 00:12:07,200
<font color="
my boxers on.

419
00:12:07,240 --> 00:12:07,480
I think I'd like to keep
my boxers on.

420
00:12:07,520 --> 00:12:08,920
Yeah. OK.

421
00:12:08,960 --> 00:12:10,960
Pleasure mapping is an exercise

422
00:12:11,000 --> 00:12:11,240
Pleasure mapping is an exercise

423
00:12:11,280 --> 00:12:13,280
where Ilil touches Alex
all over his body...

424
00:12:13,320 --> 00:12:14,080
where Ilil touches Alex
all over his body...

425
00:12:14,120 --> 00:12:16,120
So we can start laying down.

426
00:12:16,160 --> 00:12:16,680
<font color="

427
00:12:16,720 --> 00:12:18,720
..including his genitals,

428
00:12:18,760 --> 00:12:20,760
so Alex can lie back
and concentrate on pleasure.

429
00:12:20,800 --> 00:12:22,400
so Alex can lie back
and concentrate on pleasure.

430
00:12:22,440 --> 00:12:23,840
Is this the touch that...

431
00:12:23,880 --> 00:12:25,560
That feels nice, yeah. ..you want?

432
00:12:28,040 --> 00:12:30,040
I've had three people that
I would describe as a girlfriend...

433
00:12:30,080 --> 00:12:32,080
<font color="
I would describe as a girlfriend...

434
00:12:32,120 --> 00:12:32,320
I've had three people that
I would describe as a girlfriend...

435
00:12:33,760 --> 00:12:35,760
..but I never had sex with anyone.

436
00:12:35,800 --> 00:12:36,760
..but I never had sex with anyone.

437
00:12:36,800 --> 00:12:38,800
The first time I tried,
I had a panic attack.

438
00:12:38,840 --> 00:12:39,120
<font color="
I had a panic attack.

439
00:12:39,160 --> 00:12:40,880
I was so nervous,
I couldn't get an erection.

440
00:12:40,920 --> 00:12:42,840
And, um...

441
00:12:42,880 --> 00:12:44,880
..I then convinced myself that

442
00:12:44,920 --> 00:12:45,160
..I then convinced myself that

443
00:12:45,200 --> 00:12:47,200
sex is something, I guess,
scary or nerve-racking.

444
00:12:47,240 --> 00:12:48,920
<font color="
scary or nerve-racking.

445
00:12:48,960 --> 00:12:50,720
It's constantly playing on my mind.

446
00:12:52,680 --> 00:12:54,680
Is this the right speed?
Yeah, that's great.

447
00:12:54,720 --> 00:12:54,920
Is this the right speed?
Yeah, that's great.

448
00:12:57,960 --> 00:12:59,400
Very erotic.

449
00:12:59,440 --> 00:13:01,440
So touching close to
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450
00:13:01,480 --> 00:13:01,880
So touching close to
your underwear line,

451
00:13:01,920 --> 00:13:03,600
it's almost, like, teasing you.

452
00:13:03,640 --> 00:13:05,040
Yeah. All right.

453
00:13:07,560 --> 00:13:09,040
What are you noticing?

454
00:13:09,080 --> 00:13:11,080
Getting more turned on. Mm-hm.

455
00:13:11,120 --> 00:13:11,320
<font color="

456
00:13:11,360 --> 00:13:13,000
Really getting, like, excited.

457
00:13:13,040 --> 00:13:15,040
Mm-hm.

458
00:13:15,080 --> 00:13:15,320
Mm-hm.

459
00:13:15,360 --> 00:13:17,360
It felt really nice when you were
brushing past my genitals.

460
00:13:17,400 --> 00:13:18,000
It felt really nice when you were
brushing past my genitals.

461
00:13:18,040 --> 00:13:20,040
<font color="
Yeah, yeah, yeah.

462
00:13:20,080 --> 00:13:20,280
Would you like me to do that?
Yeah, yeah, yeah.

463
00:13:23,320 --> 00:13:25,200
And I love when you move like that.

464
00:13:25,240 --> 00:13:27,240
It kind of really lets me know
that you're enjoying yourself.

465
00:13:27,280 --> 00:13:28,280
It kind of really lets me know
<font color="

466
00:13:39,640 --> 00:13:41,000
All right.

467
00:13:42,560 --> 00:13:43,880
Amazing.

468
00:13:43,920 --> 00:13:45,800
Amazing, amazing, amazing.

469
00:13:47,200 --> 00:13:49,200
I'm gonna take my hand
off very slowly.

470
00:13:49,240 --> 00:13:49,440
I'm gonna take my hand
off very slowly.

471
00:13:52,080 --> 00:13:54,080
So, did you feel me fully aroused?

472
00:13:54,120 --> 00:13:54,560
<font color="

473
00:13:54,600 --> 00:13:55,880
Yeah.

474
00:13:55,920 --> 00:13:57,920
Could you feel you fully aroused?
Yeah, yeah.

475
00:13:57,960 --> 00:13:58,800
Could you feel you fully aroused?
Yeah, yeah.

476
00:13:58,840 --> 00:13:59,920
Amazing.

477
00:14:02,080 --> 00:14:04,080
Have you ever felt aroused
like that with someone?

478
00:14:04,120 --> 00:14:04,720
<font color="
like that with someone?

479
00:14:04,760 --> 00:14:06,760
Not like that.
Not to the point where I'm, like,

480
00:14:06,800 --> 00:14:07,040
Not like that.
Not to the point where I'm, like,

481
00:14:07,080 --> 00:14:09,080
moving my hips and feeling tingly.

482
00:14:09,120 --> 00:14:09,600
moving my hips and feeling tingly.

483
00:14:09,640 --> 00:14:11,640
<font color="

484
00:14:11,680 --> 00:14:12,400
You were very, very erect. Yeah.

485
00:14:12,440 --> 00:14:13,920
You did so good. Thank you so much.

486
00:14:15,480 --> 00:14:16,960
Bye-bye.

487
00:14:17,000 --> 00:14:19,000
I don't think I've ever felt that
sort of level of eroticism before.

488
00:14:19,040 --> 00:14:20,240
<font color="
sort of level of eroticism before.

489
00:14:20,280 --> 00:14:22,080
She just has such
a calming presence.

490
00:14:22,120 --> 00:14:23,560
So, yeah, feeling really good

491
00:14:23,600 --> 00:14:25,600
and sort of inspires
confidence going forward.

492
00:14:25,640 --> 00:14:25,880
and sort of inspires
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493
00:14:30,520 --> 00:14:32,520
Hey, guys.
How did your one-on-one go?

494
00:14:32,560 --> 00:14:33,040
Hey, guys.
How did your one-on-one go?

495
00:14:33,080 --> 00:14:35,080
Good. It went into genital touching

496
00:14:35,120 --> 00:14:37,120
and, yeah, that felt really good.

497
00:14:37,160 --> 00:14:37,440
and, yeah, that felt really good.

498
00:14:37,480 --> 00:14:38,560
I bet!

499
00:14:38,600 --> 00:14:40,600
LAUGHTER

500
00:14:40,640 --> 00:14:41,560
LAUGHTER

501
00:14:49,560 --> 00:14:51,560
{\an8}It was really windy last night.
Yeah.

502
00:14:51,600 --> 00:14:53,600
Like, for a while, I think, like,
my tent was going to blow away.

503
00:14:53,640 --> 00:14:54,440
Like, for a while, I think, like,
my tent was going to blow away.

504
00:14:54,480 --> 00:14:56,120
Oh, my God. Do a Dorothy!

505
00:14:56,160 --> 00:14:57,600
Go to the yellow brick road.

506
00:14:57,640 --> 00:14:59,640
<font color="
into a tin man and a scarecrow.

507
00:14:59,680 --> 00:15:00,160
Celeste and Danielle have turned
into a tin man and a scarecrow.

508
00:15:02,080 --> 00:15:04,080
I'll probably be the lion
because I'm the cowardly one.

509
00:15:04,120 --> 00:15:05,000
I'll probably be the lion
because I'm the cowardly one.

510
00:15:07,280 --> 00:15:09,280
It's the afternoon on Virgin Island.

511
00:15:09,320 --> 00:15:10,200
It's the afternoon on Virgin Island.

512
00:15:10,240 --> 00:15:11,520
How does that feel?

513
00:15:11,560 --> 00:15:13,440
Yeah, it feels good.

514
00:15:13,480 --> 00:15:15,480
As the one-on-one sessions
continue...

515
00:15:15,520 --> 00:15:16,040
As the one-on-one sessions
continue...

516
00:15:16,080 --> 00:15:17,200
It's good.

517
00:15:17,240 --> 00:15:19,160
You seem more open to me.

518
00:15:19,200 --> 00:15:20,640
It's just baby steps.

519
00:15:20,680 --> 00:15:22,680
..the turn-on phase of the course
is gathering pace...

520
00:15:22,720 --> 00:15:23,960
..the turn-on phase of the course
is gathering pace...

521
00:15:24,000 --> 00:15:26,000
May I direct you
in touching my breasts?

522
00:15:26,040 --> 00:15:26,920
May I direct you
in touching my breasts?

523
00:15:26,960 --> 00:15:28,960
Yes. Yes.

524
00:15:29,000 --> 00:15:29,200
Yes. Yes.

525
00:15:29,240 --> 00:15:31,240
And a little more pressure. OK.

526
00:15:31,280 --> 00:15:31,440
<font color="

527
00:15:34,320 --> 00:15:36,320
..and the group continues
to open up to each other.

528
00:15:36,360 --> 00:15:37,280
..and the group continues
to open up to each other.

529
00:15:37,320 --> 00:15:39,320
When I was at school,
all the boys, like, would walk past

530
00:15:39,360 --> 00:15:40,720
When I was at school,
all the boys, like, would walk past

531
00:15:40,760 --> 00:15:42,560
and be like,
<font color="

532
00:15:42,600 --> 00:15:44,600
"because you go to an
all-girls school." Yeah.

533
00:15:44,640 --> 00:15:44,920
"because you go to an
all-girls school." Yeah.

534
00:15:44,960 --> 00:15:46,960
When I was, like, 12, I remember
thinking, "Oh, my gosh.

535
00:15:47,000 --> 00:15:48,000
<font color="
thinking, "Oh, my gosh.

536
00:15:48,040 --> 00:15:50,040
"Why has God given me
so many gay friends?

537
00:15:50,080 --> 00:15:50,320
"Why has God given me
so many gay friends?

538
00:15:50,360 --> 00:15:51,800
"I now have to convert all of them!"

539
00:15:51,840 --> 00:15:53,840
Took me a couple of years to realise
<font color="

540
00:15:53,880 --> 00:15:54,920
Took me a couple of years to realise
that I was, in fact, one of them.

541
00:15:58,360 --> 00:16:00,360
Years of sexual anxiety have taken
a physical toll on Joy.

542
00:16:00,400 --> 00:16:02,320
Years of sexual anxiety have taken
a physical toll on Joy.

543
00:16:02,360 --> 00:16:03,680
I have vaginismus,

544
00:16:03,720 --> 00:16:05,720
this physical and
psychological problem.

545
00:16:05,760 --> 00:16:06,200
<font color="
psychological problem.

546
00:16:06,240 --> 00:16:07,800
It causes pain.

547
00:16:07,840 --> 00:16:09,840
If I can't insert a finger
into my vagina,

548
00:16:09,880 --> 00:16:10,840
If I can't insert a finger
into my vagina,

549
00:16:10,880 --> 00:16:12,880
you know, how can I
physically have sex?

550
00:16:12,920 --> 00:16:13,200
<font color="
physically have sex?

551
00:16:13,240 --> 00:16:14,840
With guidance from Ilil,

552
00:16:14,880 --> 00:16:16,880
she'll learn how to relax
her body around touch.

553
00:16:16,920 --> 00:16:17,880
she'll learn how to relax
her body around touch.

554
00:16:17,920 --> 00:16:19,920
We can actually practise

555
00:16:19,960 --> 00:16:20,360
We can actually practise

556
00:16:20,400 --> 00:16:22,400
towards penetration
in a very slow process,

557
00:16:22,440 --> 00:16:24,320
towards penetration
<font color="

558
00:16:24,360 --> 00:16:26,360
creating an alignment between
what the head wants to do

559
00:16:26,400 --> 00:16:27,760
creating an alignment between
what the head wants to do

560
00:16:27,800 --> 00:16:29,800
and what the body actually
feels comfortable with.

561
00:16:29,840 --> 00:16:30,360
and what the body actually
<font color="

562
00:16:32,000 --> 00:16:33,200
Hello, beautiful.

563
00:16:36,680 --> 00:16:38,680
So our intention for today is
if you feel comfortable,

564
00:16:38,720 --> 00:16:39,640
So our intention for today is
if you feel comfortable,

565
00:16:39,680 --> 00:16:41,680
we can explore the opening
of your vagina.

566
00:16:41,720 --> 00:16:41,960
we can explore the opening
<font color="

567
00:16:43,240 --> 00:16:45,240
Sometimes that's been hard
because it all, like, closes up.

568
00:16:45,280 --> 00:16:46,680
Sometimes that's been hard
because it all, like, closes up.

569
00:16:46,720 --> 00:16:48,560
Maybe we can see it today.

570
00:16:52,080 --> 00:16:54,080
I want you to just start by maybe
putting your hands on your vulva.

571
00:16:54,120 --> 00:16:55,440
<font color="
putting your hands on your vulva.

572
00:16:58,240 --> 00:17:00,240
Would you like to have a look
where you're touching? Yeah.

573
00:17:00,280 --> 00:17:00,880
Would you like to have a look
where you're touching? Yeah.

574
00:17:00,920 --> 00:17:02,920
Ilil encourages Joy to
explore her body...

575
00:17:02,960 --> 00:17:04,080
Ilil encourages Joy to
explore her body...

576
00:17:04,120 --> 00:17:06,120
Oh, my gosh, this is so weird.
Can you see?

577
00:17:06,160 --> 00:17:06,440
Oh, my gosh, this is so weird.
Can you see?

578
00:17:06,480 --> 00:17:08,480
..and in doing so, change the way
she feels about it.

579
00:17:08,520 --> 00:17:09,760
..and in doing so, change the way
she feels about it.

580
00:17:09,800 --> 00:17:11,800
Take a moment to look at your vulva
and connect to her.

581
00:17:11,840 --> 00:17:13,840
<font color="
and connect to her.

582
00:17:13,880 --> 00:17:14,080
Take a moment to look at your vulva
and connect to her.

583
00:17:15,520 --> 00:17:16,760
She's beautiful.

584
00:17:16,800 --> 00:17:18,800
It's weird because
I feel like she looks ugly.

585
00:17:18,840 --> 00:17:19,600
It's weird because
I feel like she looks ugly.

586
00:17:19,640 --> 00:17:20,960
<font color="

587
00:17:21,000 --> 00:17:23,000
I had this realisation that
I had been masturbating.

588
00:17:23,040 --> 00:17:24,880
I had this realisation that
I had been masturbating.

589
00:17:24,920 --> 00:17:26,520
I went to Christian camp

590
00:17:26,560 --> 00:17:28,560
and there was this call to come
to the front for prayer,

591
00:17:28,600 --> 00:17:30,120
<font color="
to the front for prayer,

592
00:17:30,160 --> 00:17:31,480
for sexual sin.

593
00:17:31,520 --> 00:17:33,160
I felt convicted.

594
00:17:33,200 --> 00:17:34,680
Like, "Oh, my gosh,
they're speaking about me.

595
00:17:34,720 --> 00:17:36,080
"I've sinned."

596
00:17:36,120 --> 00:17:38,120
And I told my youth pastor

597
00:17:38,160 --> 00:17:38,440
And I told my youth pastor

598
00:17:38,480 --> 00:17:40,480
<font color="

599
00:17:40,520 --> 00:17:42,000
and then she staged an intervention.

600
00:17:42,040 --> 00:17:43,440
Yeah, it's stuck with me.

601
00:17:43,480 --> 00:17:45,480
It's been hard to get that
out of my head.

602
00:17:45,520 --> 00:17:46,480
It's been hard to get that
out of my head.

603
00:17:46,520 --> 00:17:48,520
And now I want to be free to explore
<font color="

604
00:17:48,560 --> 00:17:50,320
And now I want to be free to explore
a sexual side to myself.

605
00:17:50,360 --> 00:17:52,360
I want to enjoy my life
and accept myself.

606
00:17:52,400 --> 00:17:53,600
I want to enjoy my life
and accept myself.

607
00:17:55,360 --> 00:17:57,360
So what part are you curious about?

608
00:17:57,400 --> 00:17:58,120
<font color="

609
00:17:58,160 --> 00:18:00,160
I think I want to just touch
the outer labia.

610
00:18:00,200 --> 00:18:01,600
I think I want to just touch
the outer labia.

611
00:18:01,640 --> 00:18:02,640
Awesome.

612
00:18:02,680 --> 00:18:04,680
You can do like that.

613
00:18:04,720 --> 00:18:05,000
You can do like that.

614
00:18:05,040 --> 00:18:07,040
You can, like, bring
<font color="

615
00:18:07,080 --> 00:18:08,480
You can, like, bring
a little bit of vibration. OK.

616
00:18:09,880 --> 00:18:11,040
That's quite nice.

617
00:18:11,080 --> 00:18:13,080
A bit arousing? Mm-hm. Yeah. Yeah,

618
00:18:13,120 --> 00:18:13,360
<font color="

619
00:18:13,400 --> 00:18:15,120
Do you want to try it with oil?
Yeah.

620
00:18:17,960 --> 00:18:19,960
Put it all over your vulva. Mm-hm.

621
00:18:20,000 --> 00:18:20,360
Put it all over your vulva. Mm-hm.

622
00:18:23,280 --> 00:18:25,280
<font color="
Yeah.

623
00:18:25,320 --> 00:18:25,880
It does feel totally different.
Yeah.

624
00:18:25,920 --> 00:18:27,440
Can you see your opening? Yeah.

625
00:18:27,480 --> 00:18:29,480
You can see a tiny dot there? Yeah.

626
00:18:29,520 --> 00:18:29,720
You can see a tiny dot there? Yeah.

627
00:18:29,760 --> 00:18:31,400
<font color="

628
00:18:31,440 --> 00:18:32,840
Oh, that's so interesting.

629
00:18:32,880 --> 00:18:34,760
The clit is like a miniature penis.

630
00:18:34,800 --> 00:18:36,800
You will feel there's,
like, a shaft.

631
00:18:36,840 --> 00:18:37,360
You will feel there's,
like, a shaft.

632
00:18:37,400 --> 00:18:39,400
See if you can feel the shaft. OK.

633
00:18:39,440 --> 00:18:39,600
<font color="

634
00:18:41,400 --> 00:18:43,400
Sexological bodywork
includes one-way touch...

635
00:18:43,440 --> 00:18:45,280
Sexological bodywork
includes one-way touch...

636
00:18:45,320 --> 00:18:46,520
Can I? Yeah.

637
00:18:46,560 --> 00:18:48,120
Here.

638
00:18:48,160 --> 00:18:49,800
Oh!

639
00:18:49,840 --> 00:18:51,840
..allowing Ilil, with consent,
to help Joy discover pleasure.

640
00:18:51,880 --> 00:18:53,880
..allowing Ilil, with consent,
to help Joy discover pleasure.

641
00:18:53,920 --> 00:18:54,160
..allowing Ilil, with consent,
to help Joy discover pleasure.

642
00:18:54,200 --> 00:18:56,080
So how does it feel?

643
00:18:56,120 --> 00:18:57,680
It feels really good.

644
00:18:57,720 --> 00:18:59,440
I can feel arousal.

645
00:18:59,480 --> 00:19:00,760
That's new.

646
00:19:06,520 --> 00:19:08,360
Awesome.

647
00:19:08,400 --> 00:19:10,400
Thank you very much for
giving me this experience.

648
00:19:10,440 --> 00:19:11,400
Thank you very much for
giving me this experience.

649
00:19:11,440 --> 00:19:13,280
<font color="

650
00:19:13,320 --> 00:19:15,280
It feels...

651
00:19:15,320 --> 00:19:16,520
..really special.

652
00:19:18,400 --> 00:19:20,400
It's like she's safe.

653
00:19:20,440 --> 00:19:20,640
It's like she's safe.

654
00:19:20,680 --> 00:19:22,200
She's safe. She's good.

655
00:19:23,640 --> 00:19:25,160
You got her. Yeah.

656
00:19:26,440 --> 00:19:28,080
And I know what she looks like
now as well.

657
00:19:34,240 --> 00:19:35,640
<font color="

658
00:19:35,680 --> 00:19:37,480
How was your thingy?

659
00:19:37,520 --> 00:19:39,520
Um, it was really good.

660
00:19:39,560 --> 00:19:40,360
Um, it was really good.

661
00:19:40,400 --> 00:19:42,200
Was it? Yeah, it was really good.

662
00:19:42,240 --> 00:19:44,240
She was like, "You need to focus on
what feels good for you."

663
00:19:44,280 --> 00:19:44,800
She was like, "You need to focus on
<font color="

664
00:19:44,840 --> 00:19:46,840
I think it's just like, "Really?"

665
00:19:46,880 --> 00:19:47,080
I think it's just like, "Really?"

666
00:19:47,120 --> 00:19:48,840
I'm allowed?!

667
00:19:48,880 --> 00:19:50,880
I feel really good.
I feel really good, yeah.

668
00:19:50,920 --> 00:19:51,560
I feel really good.
I feel really good, yeah.

669
00:19:51,600 --> 00:19:53,600
<font color="
things about myself.

670
00:19:53,640 --> 00:19:53,920
I just keep learning all these
things about myself.

671
00:19:53,960 --> 00:19:55,960
So proud to really connect
with my body

672
00:19:56,000 --> 00:19:56,280
So proud to really connect
with my body

673
00:19:56,320 --> 00:19:58,320
and so pleased that I felt like
<font color="

674
00:19:58,360 --> 00:19:58,680
and so pleased that I felt like
we just had this breakthrough.

675
00:20:01,480 --> 00:20:03,480
Joy has leapt forwards,
but not everyone is riding high.

676
00:20:03,520 --> 00:20:05,520
Joy has leapt forwards,
but not everyone is riding high.

677
00:20:05,560 --> 00:20:05,840
Joy has leapt forwards,
but not everyone is riding high.

678
00:20:05,880 --> 00:20:07,880
Bertie, would you like to join us,
slash, would you like a blanket?

679
00:20:07,920 --> 00:20:08,600
<font color="
slash, would you like a blanket?

680
00:20:08,640 --> 00:20:10,640
Um... Go on, then.

681
00:20:10,680 --> 00:20:11,200
Um... Go on, then.

682
00:20:11,240 --> 00:20:13,240
What, "go on, then" to the blanket
or "go on, then" to joining us?

683
00:20:13,280 --> 00:20:13,920
What, "go on, then" to the blanket
or "go on, then" to joining us?

684
00:20:13,960 --> 00:20:15,960
<font color="
See how you feel.

685
00:20:16,000 --> 00:20:16,400
I'll see what... I'll see.
See how you feel.

686
00:20:16,440 --> 00:20:18,120
Yeah. I think it's quite a chill
convo at the moment.

687
00:20:18,160 --> 00:20:19,680
Yeah, I'll see what I can do.

688
00:20:19,720 --> 00:20:21,720
Lovely to talk to you.
<font color="

689
00:20:21,760 --> 00:20:22,760
Lovely to talk to you.
Nice to talk to you. Yeah.

690
00:20:22,800 --> 00:20:24,800
I can socialise, don't worry.
I know you can!

691
00:20:24,840 --> 00:20:25,080
I can socialise, don't worry.
I know you can!

692
00:20:25,120 --> 00:20:26,080
I'm just inviting you to.

693
00:20:26,120 --> 00:20:27,240
<font color="

694
00:20:29,080 --> 00:20:31,080
Yes-yes-yes.

695
00:20:31,120 --> 00:20:31,280
Yes-yes-yes.

696
00:20:42,560 --> 00:20:44,560
Here are the clipboards.

697
00:20:44,600 --> 00:20:46,600
It's late afternoon.

698
00:20:46,640 --> 00:20:47,000
It's late afternoon.

699
00:20:47,040 --> 00:20:48,720
"This questionnaire
is multiple choice.

700
00:20:48,760 --> 00:20:50,120
"Please choose all that apply."

701
00:20:51,200 --> 00:20:53,200
To help the group explore the type
of person that turns them on...

702
00:20:53,240 --> 00:20:54,760
To help the group explore the type
of person that turns them on...

703
00:20:54,800 --> 00:20:56,840
I've put boobs so far.

704
00:20:56,880 --> 00:20:58,880
..the experts have handed out
a list of questions.

705
00:20:58,920 --> 00:20:59,880
..the experts have handed out
a list of questions.

706
00:20:59,920 --> 00:21:01,920
HE CHUCKLES
Body hair.

707
00:21:01,960 --> 00:21:02,240
HE CHUCKLES
Body hair.

708
00:21:02,280 --> 00:21:04,280
I like my girls
with a full beard, mate.

709
00:21:04,320 --> 00:21:05,400
I like my girls
<font color="

710
00:21:05,440 --> 00:21:07,440
Face shape.
I've never thought about this.

711
00:21:07,480 --> 00:21:07,920
Face shape.
I've never thought about this.

712
00:21:07,960 --> 00:21:09,800
What's mine? Sq...

713
00:21:09,840 --> 00:21:11,840
Are you calling me a square?

714
00:21:11,880 --> 00:21:12,080
Are you calling me a square?

715
00:21:12,120 --> 00:21:13,480
THEY LAUGH

716
00:21:13,520 --> 00:21:15,520
<font color="
or the colour of eyes matter,

717
00:21:15,560 --> 00:21:17,560
I don't think the colour of hair
or the colour of eyes matter,

718
00:21:17,600 --> 00:21:19,360
I don't think the colour of hair
or the colour of eyes matter,

719
00:21:19,400 --> 00:21:21,400
as long as the hair
looks presentable.

720
00:21:21,440 --> 00:21:22,320
<font color="
looks presentable.

721
00:21:22,360 --> 00:21:23,960
Great hygiene.

722
00:21:24,000 --> 00:21:26,000
Yeah. Clean hands, clean nails.

723
00:21:26,040 --> 00:21:26,200
Yeah. Clean hands, clean nails.

724
00:21:27,600 --> 00:21:29,600
And they've gotta have -
I'm gonna put banter.

725
00:21:29,640 --> 00:21:31,640
And they've gotta have -
I'm gonna put banter.

726
00:21:31,680 --> 00:21:31,920
<font color="
I'm gonna put banter.

727
00:21:31,960 --> 00:21:33,720
You know, a bit of banter!

728
00:21:35,240 --> 00:21:37,240
For Marianne, the questionnaire
proves revealing.

729
00:21:37,280 --> 00:21:38,240
For Marianne, the questionnaire
proves revealing.

730
00:21:39,440 --> 00:21:41,440
"Ideal first date setting."

731
00:21:41,480 --> 00:21:41,960
"Ideal first date setting."

732
00:21:42,000 --> 00:21:44,000
I just want to go hiking
<font color="

733
00:21:44,040 --> 00:21:45,240
I just want to go hiking
and then have a picnic somewhere,

734
00:21:45,280 --> 00:21:47,160
but then I don't really
necessarily want to be alone

735
00:21:47,200 --> 00:21:49,200
with a guy hiking
on a first date. Yeah.

736
00:21:49,240 --> 00:21:49,600
with a guy hiking
<font color="

737
00:21:49,640 --> 00:21:51,640
It depends on how safe I feel,
you know?

738
00:21:51,680 --> 00:21:51,880
It depends on how safe I feel,
you know?

739
00:21:53,960 --> 00:21:55,960
{\an8}A lot goes on in my head
all the time

740
00:21:56,000 --> 00:21:57,640
{\an8}A lot goes on in my head
all the time

741
00:21:57,680 --> 00:21:59,680
<font color="
when I was about four,

742
00:21:59,720 --> 00:22:00,560
because I was diagnosed with ADHD
when I was about four,

743
00:22:00,600 --> 00:22:02,200
and there's just a lot of emotions.

744
00:22:02,240 --> 00:22:04,240
Like, I'm never not thinking
about safety.

745
00:22:04,280 --> 00:22:05,200
Like, I'm never not thinking
<font color="

746
00:22:05,240 --> 00:22:07,240
Like, when people do one-night
stands, in my head, I'm like,

747
00:22:07,280 --> 00:22:07,520
Like, when people do one-night
stands, in my head, I'm like,

748
00:22:07,560 --> 00:22:08,800
"X, Y, Z could go wrong.

749
00:22:08,840 --> 00:22:10,680
"How are you going to an
unknown place?"

750
00:22:10,720 --> 00:22:12,720
My brain goes sort of
<font color="

751
00:22:12,760 --> 00:22:12,960
My brain goes sort of
into overdrive.

752
00:22:14,000 --> 00:22:16,000
I don't trust men.

753
00:22:16,040 --> 00:22:16,920
I don't trust men.

754
00:22:16,960 --> 00:22:18,720
Right. We're done and dusted.

755
00:22:18,760 --> 00:22:20,280
High five.

756
00:22:20,320 --> 00:22:21,480
Cool.

757
00:22:21,520 --> 00:22:23,480
Yeah, I know it is me,

758
00:22:23,520 --> 00:22:25,240
<font color="
how to move forward.

759
00:22:28,880 --> 00:22:30,880
{\an8}Marianne is very much in her head.

760
00:22:30,920 --> 00:22:32,040
{\an8}Marianne is very much in her head.

761
00:22:32,080 --> 00:22:34,080
She's trying to manage

762
00:22:34,120 --> 00:22:34,360
She's trying to manage

763
00:22:34,400 --> 00:22:36,400
her boundaries,
so she won't get hurt.

764
00:22:36,440 --> 00:22:37,120
her boundaries,
<font color="

765
00:22:38,480 --> 00:22:40,480
And in that way,
she is holding herself back

766
00:22:40,520 --> 00:22:40,880
And in that way,
she is holding herself back

767
00:22:40,920 --> 00:22:42,920
from fully experiencing life.

768
00:22:42,960 --> 00:22:43,120
from fully experiencing life.

769
00:22:44,840 --> 00:22:46,840
Good to see you.

770
00:22:46,880 --> 00:22:47,240
Good to see you.

771
00:22:47,280 --> 00:22:49,280
Danielle wants to try and help
Marianne confront her barriers.

772
00:22:49,320 --> 00:22:51,320
Danielle wants to try and help
Marianne confront her barriers.

773
00:22:51,360 --> 00:22:51,760
Danielle wants to try and help
Marianne confront her barriers.

774
00:22:51,800 --> 00:22:53,800
What do you want for yourself
in the retreat?

775
00:22:53,840 --> 00:22:54,400
What do you want for yourself
in the retreat?

776
00:22:54,440 --> 00:22:56,440
When it comes to sort of intimacy,
<font color="

777
00:22:56,480 --> 00:22:57,400
When it comes to sort of intimacy,
I always just have...

778
00:22:57,440 --> 00:22:59,440
My first thought is just safety.

779
00:22:59,480 --> 00:23:00,160
My first thought is just safety.

780
00:23:00,200 --> 00:23:02,200
So a lot of what you're trying
to do now is really, like,

781
00:23:02,240 --> 00:23:03,560
So a lot of what you're trying
<font color="

782
00:23:03,600 --> 00:23:05,360
keep yourself in check.

783
00:23:06,680 --> 00:23:08,120
It...

784
00:23:08,160 --> 00:23:10,120
It just feels like

785
00:23:10,160 --> 00:23:12,160
I'm all alone and
I have to put up a guard.

786
00:23:12,200 --> 00:23:12,480
I'm all alone and
I have to put up a guard.

787
00:23:12,520 --> 00:23:14,080
I'm just saying sort of
<font color="

788
00:23:14,120 --> 00:23:16,120
and I think my younger self
feels quite sad

789
00:23:16,160 --> 00:23:16,920
and I think my younger self
feels quite sad

790
00:23:16,960 --> 00:23:18,720
that I'm still stuck
with that feeling.

791
00:23:29,040 --> 00:23:31,040
I feel like I had a lot of issues
growing up in South Africa.

792
00:23:31,080 --> 00:23:32,480
<font color="
growing up in South Africa.

793
00:23:32,520 --> 00:23:34,520
In school, I was one of
three mixed-race girls,

794
00:23:34,560 --> 00:23:35,480
In school, I was one of
three mixed-race girls,

795
00:23:35,520 --> 00:23:37,520
and we didn't really know how to
fit in because we weren't, like,

796
00:23:37,560 --> 00:23:38,280
<font color="
fit in because we weren't, like,

797
00:23:38,320 --> 00:23:40,320
black enough or the black guys,
white enough for the white guys.

798
00:23:40,360 --> 00:23:41,960
black enough or the black guys,
white enough for the white guys.

799
00:23:42,000 --> 00:23:44,000
I get viewed as this exotic thing.

800
00:23:44,040 --> 00:23:45,200
<font color="

801
00:23:45,240 --> 00:23:46,440
Sweetheart.

802
00:23:46,480 --> 00:23:48,480
Is it OK if I put my hand
on your knee? That's fine.

803
00:23:48,520 --> 00:23:49,360
Is it OK if I put my hand
on your knee? That's fine.

804
00:23:49,400 --> 00:23:51,400
It has been sort of, like,
<font color="

805
00:23:51,440 --> 00:23:52,160
It has been sort of, like,
a competition with guys.

806
00:23:52,200 --> 00:23:53,520
They would never be
in a relationship with us,

807
00:23:53,560 --> 00:23:55,560
but they just want to, like,
get our clothes off.

808
00:23:55,600 --> 00:23:55,880
but they just want to, like,
get our clothes off.

809
00:23:55,920 --> 00:23:57,920
<font color="
for me to, like, trust men.

810
00:23:57,960 --> 00:23:59,960
And so it's really, really hard
for me to, like, trust men.

811
00:24:00,000 --> 00:24:00,280
And so it's really, really hard
for me to, like, trust men.

812
00:24:01,800 --> 00:24:03,800
I just feel...

813
00:24:03,840 --> 00:24:04,120
I just feel...

814
00:24:04,160 --> 00:24:05,840
<font color="
on things

815
00:24:05,880 --> 00:24:07,800
and I can't differentiate, like,

816
00:24:07,840 --> 00:24:09,840
what's actual fear
and what's just, like...

817
00:24:09,880 --> 00:24:10,360
what's actual fear
and what's just, like...

818
00:24:10,400 --> 00:24:12,160
Protection. Yeah.

819
00:24:13,520 --> 00:24:15,000
<font color="

820
00:24:15,040 --> 00:24:17,040
Oh, I would love to.

821
00:24:17,080 --> 00:24:17,280
Oh, I would love to.

822
00:24:20,960 --> 00:24:22,960
Marianne needs to learn
to trust that men

823
00:24:23,000 --> 00:24:24,000
Marianne needs to learn
to trust that men

824
00:24:24,040 --> 00:24:26,040
don't necessarily want to
take advantage of her.

825
00:24:26,080 --> 00:24:27,960
<font color="
take advantage of her.

826
00:24:28,000 --> 00:24:30,000
And working with the men
to deal with all those issues,

827
00:24:30,040 --> 00:24:31,720
And working with the men
to deal with all those issues,

828
00:24:31,760 --> 00:24:33,760
that's her biggest challenge
on the island.

829
00:24:33,800 --> 00:24:35,080
<font color="
on the island.

830
00:24:43,480 --> 00:24:45,480
Thank you so much. My pleasure.

831
00:24:45,520 --> 00:24:45,680
Thank you so much. My pleasure.

832
00:24:47,760 --> 00:24:49,760
I knew I was going to be emotional,
but everything sort of hit me.

833
00:24:49,800 --> 00:24:51,560
I knew I was going to be emotional,
<font color="

834
00:24:59,200 --> 00:25:01,200
It was nice to have this session
because, like, I can just

835
00:25:01,240 --> 00:25:02,720
It was nice to have this session
because, like, I can just

836
00:25:02,760 --> 00:25:04,760
think more clearly about
what's to come,

837
00:25:04,800 --> 00:25:05,360
think more clearly about
<font color="

838
00:25:05,400 --> 00:25:07,400
but that's quite daunting.

839
00:25:07,440 --> 00:25:07,600
but that's quite daunting.

840
00:25:21,840 --> 00:25:23,200
{\an8}Morning. Morning.

841
00:25:23,240 --> 00:25:24,400
Morning, Marianne.

842
00:25:25,520 --> 00:25:27,520
Another day begins
on Virgin Island...

843
00:25:27,560 --> 00:25:28,080
Another day begins
on Virgin Island...

844
00:25:29,280 --> 00:25:31,280
Oh, got hot dog down my boob.
LAUGHTER

845
00:25:31,320 --> 00:25:32,560
<font color="
LAUGHTER

846
00:25:32,600 --> 00:25:34,600
That'll be a treat
for someone later!

847
00:25:34,640 --> 00:25:34,840
That'll be a treat
for someone later!

848
00:25:35,800 --> 00:25:37,800
..and it's the turn-ons phase
of the course.

849
00:25:37,840 --> 00:25:38,720
..and it's the turn-ons phase
of the course.

850
00:25:38,760 --> 00:25:40,760
Nothing like a proper cuppa.

851
00:25:40,800 --> 00:25:41,000
Nothing like a proper cuppa.

852
00:25:41,040 --> 00:25:43,040
<font color="

853
00:25:43,080 --> 00:25:43,880
This phase is pretty intimidating.

854
00:25:43,920 --> 00:25:45,920
I always thought myself
as dead playful, dead flirty,

855
00:25:45,960 --> 00:25:47,840
I always thought myself
as dead playful, dead flirty,

856
00:25:47,880 --> 00:25:49,880
but I started being
really sheltered.

857
00:25:49,920 --> 00:25:50,200
<font color="
really sheltered.

858
00:25:50,240 --> 00:25:52,240
So I do feel like
I've got a lot to learn.

859
00:25:52,280 --> 00:25:52,480
So I do feel like
I've got a lot to learn.

860
00:25:54,600 --> 00:25:56,600
I personally feel a bit deflated,

861
00:25:56,640 --> 00:25:57,360
I personally feel a bit deflated,

862
00:25:57,400 --> 00:25:58,960
a bit dejected.

863
00:25:59,000 --> 00:26:00,680
<font color="

864
00:26:00,720 --> 00:26:02,720
I know it's a marathon
and not a sprint,

865
00:26:02,760 --> 00:26:03,000
I know it's a marathon
and not a sprint,

866
00:26:03,040 --> 00:26:04,520
but some people are running.

867
00:26:05,600 --> 00:26:07,080
I'm trudging.

868
00:26:09,400 --> 00:26:11,400
The phase is exposing
deep-seated fears.

869
00:26:11,440 --> 00:26:12,280
The phase is exposing
deep-seated fears.

870
00:26:14,760 --> 00:26:16,760
<font color="
around intimacy and touch,

871
00:26:16,800 --> 00:26:18,720
When it comes to younger people,
around intimacy and touch,

872
00:26:18,760 --> 00:26:20,720
there's just a lot more
self-consciousness.

873
00:26:20,760 --> 00:26:22,120
A lot of people are afraid,
you know -

874
00:26:22,160 --> 00:26:24,160
<font color="
cancelled or cross a boundary."

875
00:26:24,200 --> 00:26:24,960
"Oh, maybe I'm going to get
cancelled or cross a boundary."

876
00:26:25,000 --> 00:26:26,840
Nowadays, there is a lot of risk

877
00:26:26,880 --> 00:26:28,480
in saying the wrong thing.

878
00:26:28,520 --> 00:26:30,520
Like, if I make a weird,
stupid mistake

879
00:26:30,560 --> 00:26:30,960
<font color="
stupid mistake

880
00:26:31,000 --> 00:26:33,000
talking to a girl,
that's done, isn't it?

881
00:26:33,040 --> 00:26:33,560
talking to a girl,
that's done, isn't it?

882
00:26:33,600 --> 00:26:35,120
I don't want to do something wrong.

883
00:26:35,160 --> 00:26:36,960
I don't want to do
things too fast

884
00:26:37,000 --> 00:26:38,640
<font color="

885
00:26:38,680 --> 00:26:40,520
If I do come across
as a creep in any way,

886
00:26:40,560 --> 00:26:42,400
shape or form, I don't mean to.

887
00:26:42,440 --> 00:26:44,440
I'm so scared of the thought
of that happening.

888
00:26:44,480 --> 00:26:45,160
I'm so scared of the thought
of that happening.

889
00:26:45,200 --> 00:26:46,520
What do you think we're gonna do?

890
00:26:46,560 --> 00:26:48,240
<font color="

891
00:26:49,600 --> 00:26:51,600
Having already worked on
discovering their turn-ons...

892
00:26:51,640 --> 00:26:52,680
Having already worked on
discovering their turn-ons...

893
00:26:52,720 --> 00:26:54,560
Oh, this is so scary.

894
00:26:55,760 --> 00:26:57,520
..Celeste and Danielle
now want the group

895
00:26:57,560 --> 00:26:59,560
to feel it in their bodies.

896
00:26:59,600 --> 00:26:59,840
to feel it in their bodies.

897
00:26:59,880 --> 00:27:01,880
This is a really safe place
that we can practise

898
00:27:01,920 --> 00:27:02,800
This is a really safe place
<font color="

899
00:27:02,840 --> 00:27:04,840
touching all over
each other's bodies.

900
00:27:04,880 --> 00:27:05,160
touching all over
each other's bodies.

901
00:27:05,200 --> 00:27:07,200
This exercise can definitely
get people aroused

902
00:27:07,240 --> 00:27:07,800
This exercise can definitely
get people aroused

903
00:27:07,840 --> 00:27:09,840
<font color="

904
00:27:09,880 --> 00:27:10,040
and frankly, I hope it does.

905
00:27:13,840 --> 00:27:15,520
OK.

906
00:27:15,560 --> 00:27:17,560
One of the things that really
gets in the way of us

907
00:27:17,600 --> 00:27:18,360
One of the things that really
gets in the way of us

908
00:27:18,400 --> 00:27:20,400
feeling our turn-ons is inhibition.

909
00:27:20,440 --> 00:27:21,000
<font color="

910
00:27:21,040 --> 00:27:23,040
And today's workshop is all about
letting out your inner animal.

911
00:27:23,080 --> 00:27:25,080
And today's workshop is all about
letting out your inner animal.

912
00:27:25,120 --> 00:27:26,280
And today's workshop is all about
letting out your inner animal.

913
00:27:30,760 --> 00:27:32,280
<font color="

914
00:27:32,320 --> 00:27:34,320
and then you'll get a chance
to practise with each other.

915
00:27:34,360 --> 00:27:34,560
and then you'll get a chance
to practise with each other.

916
00:27:36,040 --> 00:27:38,040
Sex doesn't have to be this thing
that is very curated.

917
00:27:38,080 --> 00:27:39,320
Sex doesn't have to be this thing
<font color="

918
00:27:39,360 --> 00:27:41,360
It can be animalistic and fun.

919
00:27:41,400 --> 00:27:42,240
It can be animalistic and fun.

920
00:27:42,280 --> 00:27:44,280
Animal game, you don't need much
to be good at it.

921
00:27:44,320 --> 00:27:44,760
Animal game, you don't need much
to be good at it.

922
00:27:44,800 --> 00:27:46,800
It's more about connecting
<font color="

923
00:27:46,840 --> 00:27:48,040
It's more about connecting
with your own impulses

924
00:27:48,080 --> 00:27:50,080
and unleashing your inner animal.

925
00:27:50,120 --> 00:27:50,520
and unleashing your inner animal.

926
00:27:50,560 --> 00:27:52,560
THEY MOAN

927
00:27:52,600 --> 00:27:53,920
THEY MOAN

928
00:27:53,960 --> 00:27:55,960
There's another animal
just next to you.

929
00:27:56,000 --> 00:27:58,000
There's another animal
<font color="

930
00:27:58,040 --> 00:27:59,080
There's another animal
just next to you.

931
00:27:59,120 --> 00:28:01,120
You can smell.

932
00:28:01,160 --> 00:28:01,480
You can smell.

933
00:28:04,400 --> 00:28:06,400
THEY MOAN

934
00:28:06,440 --> 00:28:08,440
THEY MOAN

935
00:28:08,480 --> 00:28:09,200
THEY MOAN

936
00:28:16,120 --> 00:28:18,120
THEY MOAN

937
00:28:18,160 --> 00:28:20,160
THEY MOAN

938
00:28:20,200 --> 00:28:22,120
THEY MOAN

939
00:28:34,760 --> 00:28:36,760
THEY LAUGH

940
00:28:36,800 --> 00:28:38,360
THEY LAUGH

941
00:28:38,400 --> 00:28:40,120
Love-gasm!

942
00:28:40,160 --> 00:28:42,160
THEY LAUGH

943
00:28:42,200 --> 00:28:43,920
THEY LAUGH

944
00:28:43,960 --> 00:28:45,960
APPLAUSE

945
00:28:46,000 --> 00:28:46,480
APPLAUSE

946
00:28:46,520 --> 00:28:48,000
OK.

947
00:28:48,040 --> 00:28:50,040
<font color="

948
00:28:50,080 --> 00:28:51,360
I'm looking for a brave volunteer.

949
00:28:55,680 --> 00:28:57,680
Bertie? I've got an injured foot.

950
00:28:57,720 --> 00:28:58,240
Bertie? I've got an injured foot.

951
00:28:58,280 --> 00:28:59,640
I know it sounds like a lame excuse,

952
00:28:59,680 --> 00:29:01,680
but with my foot
and everything, it's...

953
00:29:01,720 --> 00:29:02,280
<font color="
and everything, it's...

954
00:29:02,320 --> 00:29:04,320
OK. Anyone else?

955
00:29:04,360 --> 00:29:04,600
OK. Anyone else?

956
00:29:04,640 --> 00:29:06,080
Can I do it with you,
Marianne? Yeah!

957
00:29:06,120 --> 00:29:08,120
I'm going to go with Marianne.
Great, wonderful.

958
00:29:08,160 --> 00:29:08,400
I'm going to go with Marianne.
<font color="

959
00:29:11,080 --> 00:29:13,080
Joy takes the opportunity
to practise with a woman.

960
00:29:13,120 --> 00:29:14,080
Joy takes the opportunity
to practise with a woman.

961
00:29:16,400 --> 00:29:18,400
So just take some nice,
deep breaths,

962
00:29:18,440 --> 00:29:20,240
So just take some nice,
deep breaths,

963
00:29:20,280 --> 00:29:22,280
in and out.

964
00:29:22,320 --> 00:29:23,040
in and out.

965
00:29:23,080 --> 00:29:25,080
<font color="
each other with your hands.

966
00:29:25,120 --> 00:29:27,120
When you feel ready, start exploring
each other with your hands.

967
00:29:27,160 --> 00:29:28,360
When you feel ready, start exploring
each other with your hands.

968
00:29:33,560 --> 00:29:35,560
Good. I love that you're staying
with the sensation

969
00:29:35,600 --> 00:29:36,640
<font color="
with the sensation

970
00:29:36,680 --> 00:29:38,320
and with your own bodies.

971
00:29:41,560 --> 00:29:43,560
THEY GIGGLE

972
00:29:43,600 --> 00:29:44,880
THEY GIGGLE

973
00:29:49,440 --> 00:29:51,440
APPLAUSE

974
00:29:51,480 --> 00:29:53,040
APPLAUSE

975
00:29:53,080 --> 00:29:55,000
And how was that for you?

976
00:29:55,040 --> 00:29:56,880
Marianne made me feel very safe.

977
00:29:56,920 --> 00:29:58,440
Same! It was very fun.

978
00:30:01,600 --> 00:30:03,600
As more of the group step up...

979
00:30:03,640 --> 00:30:03,920
As more of the group step up...

980
00:30:03,960 --> 00:30:05,960
<font color="
wants to do.

981
00:30:06,000 --> 00:30:06,480
Just follow what your body
wants to do.

982
00:30:08,800 --> 00:30:10,800
..their animal instincts
start to emerge.

983
00:30:10,840 --> 00:30:11,640
..their animal instincts
start to emerge.

984
00:30:13,920 --> 00:30:15,920
Touching and sensing.

985
00:30:15,960 --> 00:30:17,240
Touching and sensing.

986
00:30:21,680 --> 00:30:23,680
Woohoo!
APPLAUSE

987
00:30:23,720 --> 00:30:24,880
Woohoo!
APPLAUSE

988
00:30:24,920 --> 00:30:25,960
<font color="

989
00:30:28,800 --> 00:30:29,880
Fuck it.

990
00:30:29,920 --> 00:30:31,920
Yes, Bertie.
CHEERING

991
00:30:31,960 --> 00:30:32,680
Yes, Bertie.
CHEERING

992
00:30:32,720 --> 00:30:34,720
Up until now,
Bertie keeps holding back.

993
00:30:34,760 --> 00:30:35,880
Up until now,
Bertie keeps holding back.

994
00:30:35,920 --> 00:30:37,840
If I don't do it now,
I'll regret it later.

995
00:30:39,040 --> 00:30:41,040
I think this is the worst time
to be a young adult,

996
00:30:41,080 --> 00:30:43,080
<font color="
to be a young adult,

997
00:30:43,120 --> 00:30:43,680
I think this is the worst time
to be a young adult,

998
00:30:43,720 --> 00:30:45,720
because if you're someone like me
who struggles with

999
00:30:45,760 --> 00:30:47,240
because if you're someone like me
who struggles with

1000
00:30:47,280 --> 00:30:49,280
<font color="

1001
00:30:49,320 --> 00:30:49,880
approaching and talking to women,

1002
00:30:49,920 --> 00:30:51,560
it's near impossible.

1003
00:30:51,600 --> 00:30:53,160
Right.

1004
00:30:53,200 --> 00:30:55,200
I constantly think about
what I could do wrong,

1005
00:30:55,240 --> 00:30:56,520
I constantly think about
what I could do wrong,

1006
00:30:56,560 --> 00:30:58,560
rather than what I could do right.

1007
00:30:58,600 --> 00:30:58,920
<font color="

1008
00:30:58,960 --> 00:31:00,960
But I have to do this because
I want to improve my life.

1009
00:31:01,000 --> 00:31:02,240
But I have to do this because
I want to improve my life.

1010
00:31:05,240 --> 00:31:07,240
Start noticing that there's
an animal inside you

1011
00:31:07,280 --> 00:31:09,280
Start noticing that there's
<font color="

1012
00:31:09,320 --> 00:31:10,520
Start noticing that there's
an animal inside you

1013
00:31:10,560 --> 00:31:12,560
and you can rub against them.

1014
00:31:12,600 --> 00:31:12,840
and you can rub against them.

1015
00:31:14,440 --> 00:31:16,440
Mm.

1016
00:31:16,480 --> 00:31:18,200
You can hold.

1017
00:31:18,240 --> 00:31:19,760
Oh!
BERTIE LAUGHS

1018
00:31:19,800 --> 00:31:21,680
Are you OK? I'm good, yeah.

1019
00:31:21,720 --> 00:31:23,480
<font color="

1020
00:31:23,520 --> 00:31:25,520
You get in a comfy position. Yeah.

1021
00:31:25,560 --> 00:31:26,120
You get in a comfy position. Yeah.

1022
00:31:32,120 --> 00:31:34,120
That's OK. Yeah?

1023
00:31:34,160 --> 00:31:34,440
That's OK. Yeah?

1024
00:31:34,480 --> 00:31:36,480
<font color="

1025
00:31:36,520 --> 00:31:37,600
Let yourself feel how good it feels.

1026
00:31:51,560 --> 00:31:53,560
APPLAUSE

1027
00:31:53,600 --> 00:31:54,000
APPLAUSE

1028
00:31:54,040 --> 00:31:56,040
Amazing.
You want to share a little bit?

1029
00:31:56,080 --> 00:31:56,360
Amazing.
You want to share a little bit?

1030
00:31:56,400 --> 00:31:58,400
I was a bit apprehensive
about doing it at first.

1031
00:31:58,440 --> 00:31:59,760
<font color="
doing a good job.

1032
00:31:59,800 --> 00:32:01,800
It just all felt natural
and, like, really nice.

1033
00:32:01,840 --> 00:32:02,280
It just all felt natural
and, like, really nice.

1034
00:32:02,320 --> 00:32:03,840
You've got nice hair
to touch as well.

1035
00:32:03,880 --> 00:32:05,880
All that wax has come in handy.
<font color="

1036
00:32:05,920 --> 00:32:06,160
All that wax has come in handy.
That's what it is.

1037
00:32:06,200 --> 00:32:08,200
APPLAUSE

1038
00:32:08,240 --> 00:32:10,240
APPLAUSE

1039
00:32:10,280 --> 00:32:11,080
APPLAUSE

1040
00:32:11,120 --> 00:32:12,160
There we go.

1041
00:32:12,200 --> 00:32:13,720
Well done to you. Thank you.

1042
00:32:19,920 --> 00:32:21,680
So how was that?

1043
00:32:21,720 --> 00:32:23,240
LAUGHTER

1044
00:32:23,280 --> 00:32:25,280
I was still in that, like, "Ooh!"

1045
00:32:25,320 --> 00:32:25,520
<font color="

1046
00:32:25,560 --> 00:32:27,080
Like, frisky mood, let's say.

1047
00:32:27,120 --> 00:32:29,120
And I was like, "OK, so I'm gonna
just have to calm myself back down

1048
00:32:29,160 --> 00:32:29,960
And I was like, "OK, so I'm gonna
just have to calm myself back down

1049
00:32:30,000 --> 00:32:31,520
"and start from Bertie's level."

1050
00:32:33,040 --> 00:32:35,040
<font color="
How did you find it?

1051
00:32:35,080 --> 00:32:35,760
All right, Bertie? Hello.
How did you find it?

1052
00:32:35,800 --> 00:32:37,800
Good, good. You had the right amount
of pressure on me that I like.

1053
00:32:37,840 --> 00:32:39,000
<font color="
of pressure on me that I like.

1054
00:32:39,040 --> 00:32:41,040
It felt so natural.
And I was like, "This is..."

1055
00:32:41,080 --> 00:32:41,520
It felt so natural.
And I was like, "This is..."

1056
00:32:41,560 --> 00:32:43,560
Yeah. Oh!

1057
00:32:43,600 --> 00:32:43,840
Yeah. Oh!

1058
00:32:43,880 --> 00:32:45,800
<font color="
bravest things I've done

1059
00:32:45,840 --> 00:32:47,840
would be the understatement
of the millennium.

1060
00:32:47,880 --> 00:32:48,760
would be the understatement
of the millennium.

1061
00:32:48,800 --> 00:32:50,800
This isn't peer pressure
or anything like that.

1062
00:32:50,840 --> 00:32:51,360
This isn't peer pressure
<font color="

1063
00:32:51,400 --> 00:32:53,400
I just feel like I kind of
have to participate

1064
00:32:53,440 --> 00:32:55,280
I just feel like I kind of
have to participate

1065
00:32:55,320 --> 00:32:57,320
because if I am going on this island

1066
00:32:57,360 --> 00:32:58,160
because if I am going on this island

1067
00:32:58,200 --> 00:33:00,200
to be the same old person

1068
00:33:00,240 --> 00:33:00,480
<font color="

1069
00:33:00,520 --> 00:33:02,520
that I was for all my life,
what am I doing here?

1070
00:33:02,560 --> 00:33:03,320
that I was for all my life,
what am I doing here?

1071
00:33:06,480 --> 00:33:08,480
As the course is going on, I can see
people learning and changing.

1072
00:33:08,520 --> 00:33:10,040
As the course is going on, I can see
<font color="

1073
00:33:10,080 --> 00:33:11,760
Everybody's trying new things,

1074
00:33:11,800 --> 00:33:13,800
but for some people,
therapy is very slow

1075
00:33:13,840 --> 00:33:14,800
but for some people,
therapy is very slow

1076
00:33:14,840 --> 00:33:16,840
and totally goes at the
pace of the client.

1077
00:33:16,880 --> 00:33:17,240
and totally goes at the
<font color="

1078
00:33:22,560 --> 00:33:24,560
Bertie may be working things out,

1079
00:33:24,600 --> 00:33:25,160
Bertie may be working things out,

1080
00:33:25,200 --> 00:33:27,200
but discovering turn-ons
for some is slow progress.

1081
00:33:27,240 --> 00:33:28,560
but discovering turn-ons
for some is slow progress.

1082
00:33:28,600 --> 00:33:30,600
Guys, do you like hairy vaginas?

1083
00:33:30,640 --> 00:33:31,920
Guys, do you like hairy vaginas?

1084
00:33:31,960 --> 00:33:33,960
I actually don't care. Yeah.
Each to their own.

1085
00:33:34,000 --> 00:33:35,280
<font color="
Each to their own.

1086
00:33:35,320 --> 00:33:37,320
When it starts coming out of their
knicker line and you're like,

1087
00:33:37,360 --> 00:33:37,680
When it starts coming out of their
knicker line and you're like,

1088
00:33:37,720 --> 00:33:39,360
"Oh, God, you need to shave."

1089
00:33:39,400 --> 00:33:41,200
Oh, no.

1090
00:33:41,240 --> 00:33:43,240
<font color="
very much, but, you know.

1091
00:33:43,280 --> 00:33:43,680
I don't really look after myself
very much, but, you know.

1092
00:33:43,720 --> 00:33:45,640
No-one's seeing it, so...

1093
00:33:45,680 --> 00:33:47,680
After this, that won't be true.

1094
00:33:47,720 --> 00:33:48,040
After this, that won't be true.

1095
00:33:48,080 --> 00:33:50,080
LAUGHTER

1096
00:33:50,120 --> 00:33:51,000
LAUGHTER

1097
00:33:51,040 --> 00:33:53,040
Intimacy is challenging
for everyone on the island,

1098
00:33:53,080 --> 00:33:54,680
Intimacy is challenging
for everyone on the island,

1099
00:33:54,720 --> 00:33:56,720
but for 21-year-old Callum,
it's also linked to tragedy.

1100
00:33:56,760 --> 00:33:58,760
but for 21-year-old Callum,
it's also linked to tragedy.

1101
00:33:58,800 --> 00:33:59,040
but for 21-year-old Callum,
it's also linked to tragedy.

1102
00:33:59,080 --> 00:34:01,080
My dad passed away two years ago.

1103
00:34:01,120 --> 00:34:01,400
My dad passed away two years ago.

1104
00:34:01,440 --> 00:34:03,440
He was an alcoholic.

1105
00:34:03,480 --> 00:34:04,240
He was an alcoholic.

1106
00:34:04,280 --> 00:34:05,240
Um...

1107
00:34:07,120 --> 00:34:09,120
<font color="
how to respond to it.

1108
00:34:09,160 --> 00:34:10,120
I don't really know
how to respond to it.

1109
00:34:11,320 --> 00:34:13,320
I'm living on my own in his house,
where he used to live,

1110
00:34:13,360 --> 00:34:14,080
I'm living on my own in his house,
where he used to live,

1111
00:34:14,120 --> 00:34:16,120
and probably spend...

1112
00:34:16,160 --> 00:34:16,600
<font color="

1113
00:34:16,640 --> 00:34:18,640
It's probably about
16 hours a day, gaming.

1114
00:34:18,680 --> 00:34:20,480
It's probably about
16 hours a day, gaming.

1115
00:34:20,520 --> 00:34:22,520
I suppose it is a way to escape
everything in the world.

1116
00:34:22,560 --> 00:34:24,520
I suppose it is a way to escape
everything in the world.

1117
00:34:24,560 --> 00:34:26,560
<font color="

1118
00:34:26,600 --> 00:34:27,040
I struggle to meet people in person.

1119
00:34:27,080 --> 00:34:29,080
It makes me feel alone.

1120
00:34:29,120 --> 00:34:30,240
It makes me feel alone.

1121
00:34:33,720 --> 00:34:35,720
The experts want Callum
to tackle his grief...

1122
00:34:35,760 --> 00:34:36,400
The experts want Callum
to tackle his grief...

1123
00:34:37,880 --> 00:34:39,160
Hi. Hello!

1124
00:34:39,200 --> 00:34:41,200
..with clinical therapist Abby.

1125
00:34:41,240 --> 00:34:41,400
..with clinical therapist Abby.

1126
00:34:44,680 --> 00:34:46,680
<font color="
where you felt uncomfortable

1127
00:34:46,720 --> 00:34:47,640
Are there times in your life
where you felt uncomfortable

1128
00:34:47,680 --> 00:34:49,200
talking about these things?

1129
00:34:49,240 --> 00:34:50,880
Yeah, I think so.

1130
00:34:50,920 --> 00:34:52,840
I'm never really honest or open.

1131
00:34:52,880 --> 00:34:54,560
I think it was when my dad passed

1132
00:34:54,600 --> 00:34:56,600
<font color="
a lot of the stuff about myself.

1133
00:34:56,640 --> 00:34:57,560
that I really started to notice
a lot of the stuff about myself.

1134
00:34:57,600 --> 00:34:59,480
Talk to me a little bit about that.

1135
00:34:59,520 --> 00:35:01,520
HE SIGHS

1136
00:35:01,560 --> 00:35:01,800
HE SIGHS

1137
00:35:01,840 --> 00:35:03,840
I really punished myself
about everything.

1138
00:35:03,880 --> 00:35:04,080
I really punished myself
<font color="

1139
00:35:05,120 --> 00:35:07,120
Yeah, he got admitted to hospital
because he'd fallen.

1140
00:35:07,160 --> 00:35:08,360
Yeah, he got admitted to hospital
because he'd fallen.

1141
00:35:08,400 --> 00:35:10,400
He was on the floor for two days
and he couldn't get up.

1142
00:35:10,440 --> 00:35:10,800
He was on the floor for two days
<font color="

1143
00:35:10,840 --> 00:35:12,760
He couldn't reach his phone
to tell anyone.

1144
00:35:12,800 --> 00:35:14,800
Yeah. And the next day,
being told that,

1145
00:35:14,840 --> 00:35:16,080
Yeah. And the next day,
being told that,

1146
00:35:16,120 --> 00:35:18,120
you know, he's not got
<font color="

1147
00:35:18,160 --> 00:35:18,360
you know, he's not got
long left to live, so...

1148
00:35:19,320 --> 00:35:21,320
He died within two weeks. Yeah.

1149
00:35:21,360 --> 00:35:21,560
He died within two weeks. Yeah.

1150
00:35:21,600 --> 00:35:23,600
He got... Oh! It's OK.

1151
00:35:23,640 --> 00:35:24,840
<font color="

1152
00:35:24,880 --> 00:35:26,680
HE SIGHS
Liver cirrhosis.

1153
00:35:26,720 --> 00:35:28,720
Talk about the feeling that
comes up around that.

1154
00:35:28,760 --> 00:35:29,080
Talk about the feeling that
comes up around that.

1155
00:35:29,120 --> 00:35:31,120
I still feel like I failed him.

1156
00:35:31,160 --> 00:35:32,080
I still feel like I failed him.

1157
00:35:32,120 --> 00:35:34,120
<font color="
It's not for you to take on.

1158
00:35:34,160 --> 00:35:34,960
That's not...
It's not for you to take on.

1159
00:35:39,040 --> 00:35:41,040
Is it reasonable for you to
take responsibility of that?

1160
00:35:41,080 --> 00:35:41,640
Is it reasonable for you to
take responsibility of that?

1161
00:35:41,680 --> 00:35:42,800
Maybe not.

1162
00:35:45,240 --> 00:35:47,040
<font color="
running in your head?

1163
00:35:49,840 --> 00:35:51,240
Regret. Yeah.

1164
00:35:56,040 --> 00:35:58,040
I just want to make him proud
and not flatten his name.

1165
00:35:58,080 --> 00:36:00,080
I just want to make him proud
and not flatten his name.

1166
00:36:00,120 --> 00:36:00,680
I just want to make him proud
and not flatten his name.

1167
00:36:02,960 --> 00:36:04,120
<font color="

1168
00:36:11,960 --> 00:36:13,960
It was really emotional
because a lot of it is

1169
00:36:14,000 --> 00:36:14,520
It was really emotional
because a lot of it is

1170
00:36:14,560 --> 00:36:16,560
shit, basically,
that I hate dealing with.

1171
00:36:16,600 --> 00:36:17,520
shit, basically,
that I hate dealing with.

1172
00:36:17,560 --> 00:36:19,560
<font color="
that emotional response

1173
00:36:19,600 --> 00:36:20,520
But I've never really had
that emotional response

1174
00:36:20,560 --> 00:36:22,560
and spoke properly with someone
who understands it,

1175
00:36:22,600 --> 00:36:23,640
and spoke properly with someone
who understands it,

1176
00:36:23,680 --> 00:36:25,680
<font color="

1177
00:36:25,720 --> 00:36:26,600
and it's kind of a fuzzy feeling.

1178
00:36:26,640 --> 00:36:28,320
I just feel...

1179
00:36:28,360 --> 00:36:30,360
I feel like I want to let off steam.
I want to run around.

1180
00:36:30,400 --> 00:36:30,840
I feel like I want to let off steam.
I want to run around.

1181
00:36:36,680 --> 00:36:38,240
Hello! Hello.

1182
00:36:38,280 --> 00:36:40,000
<font color="

1183
00:36:40,040 --> 00:36:41,160
Very emotional.

1184
00:36:41,200 --> 00:36:43,200
Looking at shit from a
different angle, I suppose.

1185
00:36:43,240 --> 00:36:44,080
Looking at shit from a
different angle, I suppose.

1186
00:36:44,120 --> 00:36:46,120
Do you feel good that it's been,
like, off your chest?

1187
00:36:46,160 --> 00:36:46,600
<font color="
like, off your chest?

1188
00:36:46,640 --> 00:36:47,920
Mm.

1189
00:36:47,960 --> 00:36:49,840
Tell you what, though,
it's so hot in the tepee.

1190
00:36:49,880 --> 00:36:51,880
I sweated it all out, so...
LAUGHTER

1191
00:36:51,920 --> 00:36:52,240
I sweated it all out, so...
LAUGHTER

1192
00:36:52,280 --> 00:36:54,280
It wasn't tears. It was just
<font color="

1193
00:36:54,320 --> 00:36:54,600
It wasn't tears. It was just
sweat coming out of your eyes.

1194
00:36:54,640 --> 00:36:56,640
Yeah, yeah. It weren't tears, no.

1195
00:36:56,680 --> 00:36:57,080
Yeah, yeah. It weren't tears, no.

1196
00:37:07,040 --> 00:37:08,360
{\an8}Are you going to bomb it in?

1197
00:37:08,400 --> 00:37:09,680
Yeah, yeah.

1198
00:37:09,720 --> 00:37:11,200
It's late afternoon...

1199
00:37:11,240 --> 00:37:13,240
He just, like, glided in.

1200
00:37:13,280 --> 00:37:14,320
<font color="

1201
00:37:14,360 --> 00:37:16,360
..and many of the group
are embracing island life.

1202
00:37:16,400 --> 00:37:17,880
..and many of the group
are embracing island life.

1203
00:37:17,920 --> 00:37:19,440
To be a man, hey?

1204
00:37:19,480 --> 00:37:21,480
Get your hair wet and just, like,
come out and be fine. Yeah, yeah.

1205
00:37:21,520 --> 00:37:21,800
Get your hair wet and just, like,
<font color="

1206
00:37:21,840 --> 00:37:23,840
Not need your make-up.
No moisturiser. Yeah.

1207
00:37:23,880 --> 00:37:24,120
Not need your make-up.
No moisturiser. Yeah.

1208
00:37:24,160 --> 00:37:26,000
Not need to, like, shower.

1209
00:37:26,040 --> 00:37:28,000
Well, I think men need showers.

1210
00:37:28,040 --> 00:37:29,720
<font color="

1211
00:37:31,280 --> 00:37:33,280
As some take a dip,

1212
00:37:33,320 --> 00:37:35,320
the experts have decided it's time
for others to immerse themselves

1213
00:37:35,360 --> 00:37:36,840
the experts have decided it's time
for others to immerse themselves

1214
00:37:36,880 --> 00:37:38,880
in the retreat's most
advanced therapy,

1215
00:37:38,920 --> 00:37:39,520
in the retreat's most
advanced therapy,

1216
00:37:39,560 --> 00:37:41,560
undertaken by three specialists.

1217
00:37:41,600 --> 00:37:42,760
undertaken by three specialists.

1218
00:37:42,800 --> 00:37:44,800
Surrogate partner therapy works with
a surrogate partner and the client,

1219
00:37:44,840 --> 00:37:46,680
<font color="
a surrogate partner and the client,

1220
00:37:46,720 --> 00:37:48,720
practising with everything from
different kinds of touch,

1221
00:37:48,760 --> 00:37:49,640
practising with everything from
different kinds of touch,

1222
00:37:49,680 --> 00:37:51,680
through genital touching,
oral sex or even intercourse,

1223
00:37:51,720 --> 00:37:53,280
<font color="
oral sex or even intercourse,

1224
00:37:53,320 --> 00:37:54,920
so that people can practise

1225
00:37:54,960 --> 00:37:56,960
the full range of
sexual experiences.

1226
00:37:57,000 --> 00:37:58,040
the full range of
sexual experiences.

1227
00:37:58,080 --> 00:38:00,080
First is 35-year-old Ellen.

1228
00:38:00,120 --> 00:38:00,800
First is 35-year-old Ellen.

1229
00:38:00,840 --> 00:38:02,440
<font color="

1230
00:38:03,840 --> 00:38:05,560
While all surrogate partner therapy

1231
00:38:05,600 --> 00:38:07,600
is supported by
clinical therapist Abby...

1232
00:38:07,640 --> 00:38:08,240
is supported by
clinical therapist Abby...

1233
00:38:08,280 --> 00:38:10,280
What I do is therapeutic
emotional discussion.

1234
00:38:10,320 --> 00:38:12,320
What I do is therapeutic
emotional discussion.

1235
00:38:12,360 --> 00:38:12,640
What I do is therapeutic
<font color="

1236
00:38:12,680 --> 00:38:14,680
..Kat will be Ellen's surrogate
partner therapist.

1237
00:38:14,720 --> 00:38:15,240
..Kat will be Ellen's surrogate
partner therapist.

1238
00:38:15,280 --> 00:38:17,280
So I do the relationship side.

1239
00:38:17,320 --> 00:38:17,560
So I do the relationship side.

1240
00:38:17,600 --> 00:38:19,520
Doing touch work
and relational work's,

1241
00:38:19,560 --> 00:38:21,560
like, completely led by you. OK.

1242
00:38:21,600 --> 00:38:22,560
<font color="

1243
00:38:22,600 --> 00:38:24,600
And hands are, like, really
important in lesbian sex.

1244
00:38:24,640 --> 00:38:25,880
And hands are, like, really
important in lesbian sex.

1245
00:38:25,920 --> 00:38:27,360
Yeah. Yeah.

1246
00:38:27,400 --> 00:38:29,400
Meanwhile, Tegan will wear it with
surrogate partner therapist Risdon.

1247
00:38:29,440 --> 00:38:31,240
Meanwhile, Tegan will wear it with
surrogate partner therapist Risdon.

1248
00:38:31,280 --> 00:38:33,280
And notice the sensation
of me touching you.

1249
00:38:33,320 --> 00:38:35,320
And notice the sensation
of me touching you.

1250
00:38:35,360 --> 00:38:35,560
And notice the sensation
of me touching you.

1251
00:38:39,040 --> 00:38:40,200
How did that feel?

1252
00:38:40,240 --> 00:38:42,240
It felt good. It felt really nice.
<font color="

1253
00:38:42,280 --> 00:38:43,080
It felt good. It felt really nice.
OK, great.

1254
00:38:43,120 --> 00:38:45,120
But before Marianne can consider
a surrogate relationship,

1255
00:38:45,160 --> 00:38:46,640
But before Marianne can consider
a surrogate relationship,

1256
00:38:46,680 --> 00:38:48,680
she first has to learn to trust men.

1257
00:38:48,720 --> 00:38:49,240
she first has to learn to trust men.

1258
00:38:50,480 --> 00:38:52,480
It gets to a point where
I can feel the energy,

1259
00:38:52,520 --> 00:38:52,800
<font color="
I can feel the energy,

1260
00:38:52,840 --> 00:38:54,840
I can feel they want more,
and I can't cross the boundary.

1261
00:38:54,880 --> 00:38:56,160
I can feel they want more,
and I can't cross the boundary.

1262
00:38:56,200 --> 00:38:58,200
I just can't.
My brain just gets stuck.

1263
00:38:58,240 --> 00:38:59,080
I just can't.
<font color="

1264
00:38:59,120 --> 00:39:00,400
I really want to challenge myself.

1265
00:39:00,440 --> 00:39:02,280
I want to do it with a guy
and see how I feel.

1266
00:39:06,600 --> 00:39:08,440
{\an8}Trust is everything.

1267
00:39:08,480 --> 00:39:10,480
{\an8}Out of all my friends,
I'm the only virgin.

1268
00:39:10,520 --> 00:39:10,760
{\an8}Out of all my friends,
<font color="

1269
00:39:10,800 --> 00:39:12,840
And I do feel lonely.

1270
00:39:12,880 --> 00:39:14,880
But I do want to be in a
relationship with someone.

1271
00:39:14,920 --> 00:39:16,240
But I do want to be in a
relationship with someone.

1272
00:39:16,280 --> 00:39:18,280
If I haven't figured it out
by 26 years,

1273
00:39:18,320 --> 00:39:19,080
If I haven't figured it out
<font color="

1274
00:39:19,120 --> 00:39:20,800
then clearly I do need some help.

1275
00:39:22,000 --> 00:39:23,760
First step for Marianne...

1276
00:39:23,800 --> 00:39:25,560
Hello.

1277
00:39:25,600 --> 00:39:27,600
..is simply being comfortable
in the same room

1278
00:39:27,640 --> 00:39:28,240
..is simply being comfortable
in the same room

1279
00:39:28,280 --> 00:39:30,280
as potential surrogate
partner, Andre.

1280
00:39:30,320 --> 00:39:30,920
as potential surrogate
partner, Andre.

1281
00:39:32,360 --> 00:39:33,680
How are you feeling now?

1282
00:39:33,720 --> 00:39:35,720
A little bit anxious in my stomach.
<font color="

1283
00:39:35,760 --> 00:39:36,400
A little bit anxious in my stomach.
OK. One...

1284
00:39:36,440 --> 00:39:38,440
And that's just because of
unknowns and things. Yeah.

1285
00:39:38,480 --> 00:39:40,400
And that's just because of
unknowns and things. Yeah.

1286
00:39:40,440 --> 00:39:42,040
<font color="

1287
00:39:42,080 --> 00:39:44,080
it's very important that
we start slowly

1288
00:39:44,120 --> 00:39:44,520
it's very important that
we start slowly

1289
00:39:44,560 --> 00:39:46,560
to build the trust in myself.

1290
00:39:46,600 --> 00:39:47,560
to build the trust in myself.

1291
00:39:47,600 --> 00:39:49,600
I'm going to be moving
around the room

1292
00:39:49,640 --> 00:39:50,400
<font color="
around the room

1293
00:39:50,440 --> 00:39:52,440
and going to be noticing

1294
00:39:52,480 --> 00:39:52,720
and going to be noticing

1295
00:39:52,760 --> 00:39:54,760
how your body is reacting
to where I am.

1296
00:39:54,800 --> 00:39:55,840
how your body is reacting
to where I am.

1297
00:39:55,880 --> 00:39:57,880
The idea is just to learn how
<font color="

1298
00:39:57,920 --> 00:39:59,360
The idea is just to learn how
someone being close to you

1299
00:39:59,400 --> 00:40:01,400
can potentially feel. Yeah.

1300
00:40:01,440 --> 00:40:02,440
can potentially feel. Yeah.

1301
00:40:02,480 --> 00:40:04,080
OK. So go ahead and close your eyes.

1302
00:40:11,480 --> 00:40:13,360
And so I've moved.

1303
00:40:13,400 --> 00:40:15,400
<font color="

1304
00:40:15,440 --> 00:40:16,600
You might feel I'm further away.

1305
00:40:20,960 --> 00:40:22,960
See if there's any noticeable
change in sensation.

1306
00:40:23,000 --> 00:40:25,000
See if there's any noticeable
change in sensation.

1307
00:40:25,040 --> 00:40:25,880
See if there's any noticeable
change in sensation.

1308
00:40:28,280 --> 00:40:30,280
<font color="
how a relationship should be.

1309
00:40:30,320 --> 00:40:32,320
Growing up, I really never saw
how a relationship should be.

1310
00:40:32,360 --> 00:40:34,120
Growing up, I really never saw
how a relationship should be.

1311
00:40:34,160 --> 00:40:36,200
My dad just wasn't there.

1312
00:40:36,240 --> 00:40:38,240
And seven, eight years ago,
<font color="

1313
00:40:38,280 --> 00:40:40,280
And seven, eight years ago,
I found out I had a new half-sister.

1314
00:40:40,320 --> 00:40:42,320
My dad was sort of
collecting many families.

1315
00:40:42,360 --> 00:40:43,360
My dad was sort of
collecting many families.

1316
00:40:44,440 --> 00:40:45,480
Yeah.

1317
00:40:47,800 --> 00:40:49,800
Just noticing what's happening
<font color="

1318
00:40:49,840 --> 00:40:50,080
Just noticing what's happening
in your body.

1319
00:40:51,360 --> 00:40:53,360
So anything that reminds me of
my dad, you're instantly vetoed.

1320
00:40:53,400 --> 00:40:54,440
So anything that reminds me of
my dad, you're instantly vetoed.

1321
00:40:54,480 --> 00:40:56,400
Trust-wise, I'm very sceptical.

1322
00:41:00,600 --> 00:41:02,600
<font color="
going on in your head?

1323
00:41:02,640 --> 00:41:03,440
What was, like, kind of
going on in your head?

1324
00:41:03,480 --> 00:41:05,280
By the end,

1325
00:41:05,320 --> 00:41:07,320
I liked it. Hmm.

1326
00:41:07,360 --> 00:41:07,560
I liked it. Hmm.

1327
00:41:07,600 --> 00:41:09,600
It just felt warm by the end.

1328
00:41:09,640 --> 00:41:10,520
<font color="

1329
00:41:10,560 --> 00:41:12,560
I felt, if I'm being honest,
more sort of turned on

1330
00:41:12,600 --> 00:41:14,000
I felt, if I'm being honest,
more sort of turned on

1331
00:41:14,040 --> 00:41:16,040
with the second one that was there,
for some reason.

1332
00:41:16,080 --> 00:41:16,320
with the second one that was there,
<font color="

1333
00:41:16,360 --> 00:41:18,360
Yeah. Wonderful. OK, great.

1334
00:41:18,400 --> 00:41:19,000
Yeah. Wonderful. OK, great.

1335
00:41:19,040 --> 00:41:21,040
I feel a lot more relaxed, yeah.
Good.

1336
00:41:21,080 --> 00:41:22,840
I feel a lot more relaxed, yeah.
Good.

1337
00:41:22,880 --> 00:41:24,520
After the exercise...

1338
00:41:24,560 --> 00:41:26,560
<font color="

1339
00:41:26,600 --> 00:41:28,600
..Marianne is clearly calmer.

1340
00:41:28,640 --> 00:41:28,800
..Marianne is clearly calmer.

1341
00:41:29,880 --> 00:41:31,880
It helps that you smell like
salted caramel.

1342
00:41:31,920 --> 00:41:32,160
It helps that you smell like
salted caramel.

1343
00:41:32,200 --> 00:41:34,000
Mm. Do I really? Yeah.

1344
00:41:34,040 --> 00:41:36,040
<font color="

1345
00:41:36,080 --> 00:41:36,240
It's very, like... I like that.

1346
00:41:37,280 --> 00:41:39,280
I'm feeling a lot more reassured
working with a guy.

1347
00:41:39,320 --> 00:41:41,040
I'm feeling a lot more reassured
working with a guy.

1348
00:41:41,080 --> 00:41:43,080
He's very lovely
<font color="

1349
00:41:43,120 --> 00:41:43,600
He's very lovely
and I felt very relaxed.

1350
00:41:44,800 --> 00:41:46,800
It has helped my brain not be as...

1351
00:41:46,840 --> 00:41:48,840
It has helped my brain not be as...

1352
00:41:48,880 --> 00:41:49,080
It has helped my brain not be as...

1353
00:41:49,120 --> 00:41:50,560
..fearful.

1354
00:41:50,600 --> 00:41:52,120
I'm really proud of myself.

1355
00:41:55,800 --> 00:41:57,800
<font color="

1356
00:41:57,840 --> 00:41:58,040
Hi! Hi, Marianne. Welcome back!

1357
00:41:58,080 --> 00:41:59,600
How did your one-to-one go?

1358
00:41:59,640 --> 00:42:01,360
It was good.

1359
00:42:01,400 --> 00:42:02,880
Hell, yeah. Nice, dude.

1360
00:42:02,920 --> 00:42:04,920
How many people can actually fit in
<font color="

1361
00:42:04,960 --> 00:42:05,320
How many people can actually fit in
this bed? That's the real question.

1362
00:42:05,360 --> 00:42:07,360
Bertie, do you want to come
join us in the bed?

1363
00:42:07,400 --> 00:42:08,160
Bertie, do you want to come
join us in the bed?

1364
00:42:08,200 --> 00:42:09,720
<font color="

1365
00:42:09,760 --> 00:42:11,760
It's an open invitation.

1366
00:42:11,800 --> 00:42:12,000
It's an open invitation.

1367
00:42:12,040 --> 00:42:13,120
All right. No worries.

1368
00:42:15,080 --> 00:42:17,080
After getting back on track earlier,

1369
00:42:17,120 --> 00:42:17,360
After getting back on track earlier,

1370
00:42:17,400 --> 00:42:19,400
the experts don't want Bertie
to lose momentum again.

1371
00:42:19,440 --> 00:42:21,200
the experts don't want Bertie
to lose momentum again.

1372
00:42:21,240 --> 00:42:22,440
<font color="

1373
00:42:22,480 --> 00:42:24,480
going to use his foot as an excuse,
but he didn't.

1374
00:42:24,520 --> 00:42:24,760
going to use his foot as an excuse,
but he didn't.

1375
00:42:24,800 --> 00:42:26,640
And he was so good.

1376
00:42:26,680 --> 00:42:28,680
He seemed so sensual, so, like, um,
animalistic.

1377
00:42:28,720 --> 00:42:30,720
<font color="
animalistic.

1378
00:42:30,760 --> 00:42:31,240
He seemed so sensual, so, like, um,
animalistic.

1379
00:42:31,280 --> 00:42:33,280
It's really important
that he feels successful. Yeah.

1380
00:42:33,320 --> 00:42:33,760
It's really important
<font color="

1381
00:42:35,320 --> 00:42:37,320
When it comes to dating and sex,

1382
00:42:37,360 --> 00:42:39,000
When it comes to dating and sex,

1383
00:42:39,040 --> 00:42:41,040
I just want to be able
to be more confident

1384
00:42:41,080 --> 00:42:41,320
I just want to be able
to be more confident

1385
00:42:41,360 --> 00:42:43,360
in myself and know what I'm doing.

1386
00:42:43,400 --> 00:42:43,640
<font color="

1387
00:42:43,680 --> 00:42:45,680
Because the thought
of me approaching

1388
00:42:45,720 --> 00:42:47,240
Because the thought
of me approaching

1389
00:42:47,280 --> 00:42:49,280
a woman and asking them out,
it would make them think,

1390
00:42:49,320 --> 00:42:50,480
a woman and asking them out,
it would make them think,

1391
00:42:50,520 --> 00:42:52,520
<font color="

1392
00:42:52,560 --> 00:42:52,800
"Oh, God, this is embarrassing.

1393
00:42:52,840 --> 00:42:54,840
"What have I done to deserve being
asked out by Bertie?"

1394
00:42:54,880 --> 00:42:55,880
"What have I done to deserve being
asked out by Bertie?"

1395
00:42:58,240 --> 00:43:00,240
To help boost his confidence...
Good afternoon. Good afternoon.

1396
00:43:00,280 --> 00:43:01,080
To help boost his confidence...
Good afternoon. Good afternoon.

1397
00:43:02,240 --> 00:43:04,240
..Celeste wants
to push Bertie's boundaries.

1398
00:43:04,280 --> 00:43:05,760
..Celeste wants
to push Bertie's boundaries.

1399
00:43:05,800 --> 00:43:07,800
How was the workshop for you?
I know I got a few things wrong,

1400
00:43:07,840 --> 00:43:08,720
How was the workshop for you?
I know I got a few things wrong,

1401
00:43:08,760 --> 00:43:10,760
<font color="
really feel uncomfortable.

1402
00:43:10,800 --> 00:43:12,360
but that was the first time I didn't
really feel uncomfortable.

1403
00:43:12,400 --> 00:43:14,080
I was super proud and impressed,

1404
00:43:14,120 --> 00:43:16,120
and I think we can use this
session to just do more kinds

1405
00:43:16,160 --> 00:43:17,280
and I think we can use this
<font color="

1406
00:43:17,320 --> 00:43:19,320
of practices that will
be helpful for you.

1407
00:43:19,360 --> 00:43:19,680
of practices that will
be helpful for you.

1408
00:43:19,720 --> 00:43:21,640
Sounds good.
..to get more technique together.

1409
00:43:21,680 --> 00:43:22,760
Good job I brushed my teeth, then!

1410
00:43:27,480 --> 00:43:28,920
Celeste starts...

1411
00:43:28,960 --> 00:43:30,960
<font color="

1412
00:43:31,000 --> 00:43:31,400
So try to, like, lay me back.

1413
00:43:31,440 --> 00:43:33,320
Like this? Yeah, exactly.

1414
00:43:33,360 --> 00:43:35,360
..simulating the missionary
position...

1415
00:43:35,400 --> 00:43:36,080
..simulating the missionary
position...

1416
00:43:36,120 --> 00:43:38,120
How am I going to do this?
It'll be awkward at first. Yeah.

1417
00:43:38,160 --> 00:43:38,480
How am I going to do this?
<font color="

1418
00:43:38,520 --> 00:43:40,520
So don't worry about that, OK?
OK.

1419
00:43:40,560 --> 00:43:40,800
So don't worry about that, OK?
OK.

1420
00:43:40,840 --> 00:43:42,840
..teaching Bertie the basics.

1421
00:43:42,880 --> 00:43:43,120
..teaching Bertie the basics.

1422
00:43:43,160 --> 00:43:45,160
And then you want to line up so that
your dick is connected to my pussy.

1423
00:43:45,200 --> 00:43:47,200
<font color="
your dick is connected to my pussy.

1424
00:43:47,240 --> 00:43:47,800
And then you want to line up so that
your dick is connected to my pussy.

1425
00:43:47,840 --> 00:43:49,840
Oh, God. OK. OK!

1426
00:43:49,880 --> 00:43:50,600
Oh, God. OK. OK!

1427
00:43:50,640 --> 00:43:52,080
Right. Right?

1428
00:43:52,120 --> 00:43:53,560
<font color="

1429
00:43:53,600 --> 00:43:55,080
CELESTE LAUGHS

1430
00:43:58,680 --> 00:44:00,680
And you'll need to hold
up some of your weight.

1431
00:44:00,720 --> 00:44:01,480
And you'll need to hold
up some of your weight.

1432
00:44:01,520 --> 00:44:02,880
Yeah. Sorry. No, it's OK.

1433
00:44:02,920 --> 00:44:04,920
And if you want me to show you what
<font color="

1434
00:44:04,960 --> 00:44:05,440
And if you want me to show you what
I mean, I'm happy to do that.

1435
00:44:05,480 --> 00:44:07,480
That's fine. You can if you want to.
Well, if you lie down...

1436
00:44:07,520 --> 00:44:08,360
That's fine. You can if you want to.
Well, if you lie down...

1437
00:44:10,440 --> 00:44:12,440
OK, so if I'm on top of you...
<font color="

1438
00:44:12,480 --> 00:44:12,920
OK, so if I'm on top of you...
Yeah.

1439
00:44:12,960 --> 00:44:14,960
See how, like, I'm not all the way
down?

1440
00:44:15,000 --> 00:44:15,280
See how, like, I'm not all the way
down?

1441
00:44:15,320 --> 00:44:17,320
Yeah, no. It's just a little
too much pressure on the chest.

1442
00:44:17,360 --> 00:44:18,520
<font color="
too much pressure on the chest.

1443
00:44:23,360 --> 00:44:24,440
But when you thrust,

1444
00:44:24,480 --> 00:44:26,480
I want you to imagine that your
cock is going inside my vagina.

1445
00:44:26,520 --> 00:44:27,960
I want you to imagine that your
cock is going inside my vagina.

1446
00:44:28,000 --> 00:44:29,120
<font color="

1447
00:44:29,160 --> 00:44:31,160
Yes, exactly. Yes, yes!

1448
00:44:31,200 --> 00:44:31,720
Yes, exactly. Yes, yes!

1449
00:44:34,280 --> 00:44:36,040
You want to try doggy?
Let's try it. OK!

1450
00:44:38,880 --> 00:44:40,880
Then you get between my legs. Yep.

1451
00:44:40,920 --> 00:44:41,280
Then you get between my legs. Yep.

1452
00:44:41,320 --> 00:44:42,800
<font color="

1453
00:44:42,840 --> 00:44:44,640
Exactly!

1454
00:44:44,680 --> 00:44:46,520
You can kind of be all the way up.

1455
00:44:46,560 --> 00:44:48,560
Yes. Yes. Yes.

1456
00:44:48,600 --> 00:44:48,800
Yes. Yes. Yes.

1457
00:44:48,840 --> 00:44:50,840
Good. Yeah. Like that.

1458
00:44:50,880 --> 00:44:52,680
Good. Yeah. Like that.

1459
00:44:52,720 --> 00:44:53,680
Oh...

1460
00:44:55,840 --> 00:44:57,840
Thank you very much.
I feel light-headed.

1461
00:44:57,880 --> 00:44:58,120
<font color="
I feel light-headed.

1462
00:44:58,160 --> 00:44:59,960
Oh, yes. I bet!

1463
00:45:00,000 --> 00:45:02,000
You are an absolute miracle worker.

1464
00:45:02,040 --> 00:45:04,040
I ain't leaving.
And thank you very much.

1465
00:45:04,080 --> 00:45:04,360
I ain't leaving.
And thank you very much.

1466
00:45:04,400 --> 00:45:06,400
I'm just going to be rooting you on
<font color="

1467
00:45:06,440 --> 00:45:07,200
I'm just going to be rooting you on
in every moment.

1468
00:45:07,240 --> 00:45:08,760
Yeah. I'm proud of you.

1469
00:45:12,960 --> 00:45:14,960
Oh, Bertie, boy! Hiya.
Hello. How was it?

1470
00:45:15,000 --> 00:45:16,040
Oh, Bertie, boy! Hiya.
<font color="

1471
00:45:16,080 --> 00:45:18,080
Good. Celeste taught me how
certain sexual positions work.

1472
00:45:18,120 --> 00:45:20,120
Good. Celeste taught me how
certain sexual positions work.

1473
00:45:20,160 --> 00:45:21,640
Good. Celeste taught me how
certain sexual positions work.

1474
00:45:21,680 --> 00:45:23,680
<font color="

1475
00:45:23,720 --> 00:45:23,920
Wow. Ooh! So, uh... Yeah.

1476
00:45:23,960 --> 00:45:25,960
I feel very happy at the moment.

1477
00:45:26,000 --> 00:45:26,760
I feel very happy at the moment.

1478
00:45:26,800 --> 00:45:28,800
It's amazing what a what a bit of,
one,

1479
00:45:28,840 --> 00:45:30,360
<font color="
one,

1480
00:45:30,400 --> 00:45:31,520
rolling round on the floor

1481
00:45:31,560 --> 00:45:33,560
doing different sexual
positions can do to one's mentality.

1482
00:45:33,600 --> 00:45:34,240
doing different sexual
positions can do to one's mentality.

1483
00:45:34,280 --> 00:45:36,280
But I've made progress,
<font color="

1484
00:45:36,320 --> 00:45:38,320
But I've made progress,
and I'm proud of myself for that.

1485
00:45:38,360 --> 00:45:39,160
But I've made progress,
and I'm proud of myself for that.

1486
00:45:39,200 --> 00:45:41,200
And I'm thankful for everything
that Celeste has taught me.

1487
00:45:41,240 --> 00:45:42,160
And I'm thankful for everything
<font color="

1488
00:45:43,360 --> 00:45:45,160
Oh, my God.

1489
00:45:47,720 --> 00:45:49,720
All that thrusting
has made me hurt my bollocks.

1490
00:45:49,760 --> 00:45:51,240
All that thrusting
has made me hurt my bollocks.

1491
00:45:52,840 --> 00:45:54,680
Just going to have
to sleep on my back tonight.

1492
00:45:54,720 --> 00:45:55,720
Christ almighty.

1493
00:45:57,040 --> 00:45:58,120
Next time...

1494
00:45:58,160 --> 00:45:59,320
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1495
00:45:59,360 --> 00:46:01,240
I'm definitely a lesbian.

1496
00:46:01,280 --> 00:46:03,280
The dating phase panics Ellen.

1497
00:46:03,320 --> 00:46:03,640
The dating phase panics Ellen.

1498
00:46:03,680 --> 00:46:05,120
I just don't feel
like I'm good enough.

1499
00:46:05,160 --> 00:46:06,520
MOANING

1500
00:46:06,560 --> 00:46:08,000
Alex ups his game.

1501
00:46:08,040 --> 00:46:09,800
Do you want to see how hard you are?

1502
00:46:09,840 --> 00:46:11,520
And things heat up...

1503
00:46:11,560 --> 00:46:13,560
Cheers.
..with island dates.

1504
00:46:13,600 --> 00:46:13,920
Cheers.
..with island dates.

1505
00:46:13,960 --> 00:46:15,640
I'm so nervous still. Why?

1506
00:46:15,680 --> 00:46:17,120
I think it's cos it's you.